178 sats \ 13 replies \ @Undisciplined 23 Aug \ on: Lend Me A Hand In Asking Out A Girl. ideasfromtheedge
You should definitely be direct, especially if that's the most authentic way to portray yourself.
The only tweak I suggest is to make the ask less vague. Be more specific where you'd like to take her. Hopefully, you have some sense of what she's into, but a generic "for drinks or dinner" would be fine.
It's great that you're putting yourself out there. It can be scary as all hell, but it's the only way forward.
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33 sats \ 12 replies \ @Fabs OP 23 Aug
Hm, I'm totally not the type of guy who can sit for hours on-end, be it for drinks or dinner- at least on the first dates.
Therefore, I'd like to simply go for a walk and a cup of ice, sit down somewhere nice and quiet, and get to know each other. 🙂
It's great that you're putting yourself out there. It can be scary as all hell, but it's the only way forward.
Thanks! Yeah, I've already made my peace with the fact that I'm gonna get hurt a little, but it might be worth it! 😁
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48 sats \ 9 replies \ @k00b 23 Aug
I recommend something like billiards, or ping pong, or darts, or mini golf, or axe throwing, or an arcade, or any type of "game" venue for a first date. Basically an awkwardness/attention diffuser while you're first getting to know each other.
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74 sats \ 7 replies \ @Fabs OP 23 Aug
Meh, I'm competitive and not that good at losing... It could be a solid first Stress-Test, though... 😆
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56 sats \ 6 replies \ @k00b 23 Aug
She might like that. Who knows?!
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22 sats \ 5 replies \ @Fabs OP 23 Aug
Yeah, but do I wanna take the added risk?
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57 sats \ 4 replies \ @k00b 23 Aug
Tradeoffs, tradeoffs everywhere.
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40 sats \ 0 replies \ @Fabs OP 23 Aug
Oh K00bie... Life's tough. 🥺
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47 sats \ 2 replies \ @k00b 23 Aug
In general, I recommend not overthinking it and take every approach/date as an experiment or iteration on your way to suave Fabs. It'll help with learning that any one woman/date isn't the goal and their rejection isn't the end. The goal is you being a better date/more dateable as you prepare to meet The One which will happen fast if you free yourself to experiment enough.
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Fabs OP 23 Aug
I absolutely dig "Suave Fabs, and I'm totally with you on the rest, I might even take a screenshot to have a look at it every once in a while...🧐
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @tolot 24 Aug
That's actually a very very good suggestion!!
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 23 Aug
I'd like to simply go for a walk and a cup of ice, sit down somewhere nice and quiet, and get to know each other.
Perfect. Ask her if she wants to do that with you.
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25 sats \ 0 replies \ @Fabs OP 23 Aug
Thanks coach, will do.
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