21 sats \ 6 replies \ @j7hB75 15 Nov \ on: Gf invited her 'friend' to our place - tell me why I was right to say 'no' AskSN
Sounds like a breakdown in communication and expectations. Have you asked her why she is inviting him over if she doesn’t even know his name? That is very suspicious and a red flag to me. Makes no sense.
I suppose we don’t know how long you two have been dating and whether you’re exclusive or not. But perhaps that’s more info than you want to share which I understand.
We're in a long term committed relationship, so I feel I understand the reason. I didn't clarify originally, but the idea was his, which was to have dinner with the two of us. My girlfriend agreed to it to be charitable to him, because he is in a difficult spot. There's really no dubious intentions on her part, I know that's fairly certain.
I'm charitable, but not in my own home with someone I don't know. This could potentially be courting disaster. I can't invite him to know where we live without knowing him.
I trust her intentions, but not necessarily her character judgement. I feel it's my responsibility to be the one to put my foot down on this.
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Why don’t you suggest a dinner out? If your girlfriend is not interested in this person, it could do no harm and he might tell you his story.
You might want to hear his story before forming too much of a determination about him.
This goes as long as you are in a committed relationship and she is not looking for something on the side. If so, drop her.
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Not mine!!!!
Maybe his, but it doesn’t look like it, to me.
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Not the case. Dinner out was my first instinct. Made the suggestion to her.
If he's being reasonable, he'll understand someone not feeling comfortable having a work 'friend' over. Let's see where it goes.
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Yes, that is all you can do at this point.
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