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When I was 30, I quit everything, packed my bags and uprooted myself. I craved to live and work overseas, and participating in the Japan Exchange Teaching program made my dream come true.
There were repercussions that befell me. Now, I have not secured any leadership role even though I have returned to Singapore for many years. So, I am behind my peers in terms of career advancement.
Not that I care, really.
Recently, my boss shared that she had been one of the female leads in a college-wide performance when she was in college. She would love to pursue drama in some capacity or other, but these days, she has many stakeholders to answer to. So, she plans to fulfil her drama dream when she retires.
Another colleague shared that she had always wanted to be an air stewardess. But due to reasons that she never quite explained to me, she entered the teaching line. So, she intends to be a stewardess when she turns 60. Apparently, Emirates hires stewardesses who are on the mature side.
So, both my colleagues intend to defer their dreams. I guess money is a key factor. It must be nerve-wrecking to embark on your dreams without a substantial pool of money. They are just being pragmatic.
But I am of the opinion that some dreams need immediate action. Our personality isn’t cast in stone, and as unlikely as it may be, we will change the way we feel about life. Deferring dreams seems to be like dishonouring the current you.
When have you given up many things in your life so that you could pursue the one goal that matters to you?
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I don't disagree with your sentiment. It's interesting. The way we feel about life will change, just as life itself will change. I have a retirement dream, but it's not my life dream, so I guess I have different dreams across my life, and that is an exciting idea, a reason to look forward to them. Maybe that it what these woman experience, excitement for something in their future life.
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Ah thanks for providing your perspective. It made me see things in a different way. I have never thought of life vs retirement goals before, being someone who Iikes to live in the moment. Bitcoin has made me realise how much of a high time preference person I am by default.
Come to think of it, I don’t have any retirement goals. Maybe I should start brainstorming for ideas haha
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Mine is making pottery. I have done it and loved it enough to look forward to making the space for it in the future :)
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. Well, as a migrant, I would have too much to cover on that topic... or too many stories stored in my thoughts 💭... in December I will have been away from my country for 8 years... from my dreams and my oldest daughter who is still there... When you are forced to give up your place of comfort!! And without options... I would say that your thinking and your way of perceiving the world changes completely... the first 2 years I was completely alone here in Lima and then I was able to bring my partner and my son... and recently a year ago with a lot of effort and sacrifice I was able to bring my parents... unfortunately we sold their house there... and well when you are a migrant you realize that the houses 🏘️ are the least important if you can be with your family..👪 and not be one more of the bunch of people who go abroad for a decade and have never been to visit their family and for a thousand excuses they do not bring them to live with them abroad either... Currently I confess that I have adapted very well... I have learned their vocabulary or their different way of speaking Spanish and I am a salesman by profession... if you ask me if I would like to return to my birthplace? I would say that my children and family are better off here... And I would not change that for anything.
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I cannot imagine the amount of pain and suffering you have gone through / are enduring. It made me look at my problems with more light-heartedness. I should count my blessings. I hope that you will be reunited with your eldest daughter one day!
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