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43 sats \ 6 replies \ @Coinsreporter 19 Dec \ on: How do people live with their parents? alter_native
Seems like a worthwhile tradeoff to me.
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It's not a tradeoff, it's a blessing to be with our parents all the time. I also live with my parents and I've never felt "immensely tedious" rather I enjoy being with them. I don't think I'm alone who wants them in the same house, not 7 or 1 minute drive. It's a culture and something that I don't want to lose among our traditions.
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It's hard to imagine. Don't you already know everything they're going to say?
Do they still offer fresh insights that you find valuable?
The things my parents want to talk about aren't things I want to hear about (and probably vice versa).
Is it something else entirely? I know you have an infant and I remember being grateful to have family around for that.
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Don't you already know everything they're going to say?
Certainly not. Maybe it's because they've also changed equally because we've never been away from them. Or, maybe we've become like them for the same reason.
I've been away from my parents for almost 15 years but again wherever I lived there were always elders in the same household. So, it's not the way I can even think of.
I think it's stronger emotional connect due to our traditions and morals being taught from childhood that we're the ones who need to take care of our parents once they're old.
All in all, I'd say it's just a cultural difference. It's not that you don't love your parents as much as I do.
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I see this as a major loss for our culture. At the same time, I'm a product of it.
There's such an emphasis on being independent that it's very hard for four American adults to share a space.
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I agree it's a loss. It's also happening in big cities in India where people are more inclined towards western culture.
I've never felt, even after my marriage, that my parents are being hurdle in my independence. I'm totally opposite of it and think that my post marriage life could be boring if my parents weren't with me. I say this because women here in India still aren't as independent as in western world. When I'm out of town I need not worry about my wife and noe my daughter because of them.
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