I've accepted I cannot select my family, they are who they are, and they are the sum of their choices, as am I.

The only difference is I am open to ridicule and willing to engage honestly and will hold onto my opinions if you can't provide me with a solid argument. What I find is most people's ideas aren't theirs. It's just what was familiar, convenient and packaged where my ideas came through going through the process, so it's easy to poke holes in their way of thinking.

The problem is they're not going to change; call it sunk cost, call it comfort, call it a lack of personal responsibility or accountability. Ultimately, it's still their choice, and they reap what they sow.

I enjoy my time with those people in the doses I think work for me and engage on their level and move on, just another day, the rest of my life I can do what I want so i see it as a small mercy