In a way it's almost "good" that it happens publicly and not behind our backs no?

I think the idea that bitcoin/lightning will unite people into "good" is a bit like the Myth of the Peaceful Savage -- we're only kind of united now because it's "us vs them", but in a Bitcoin-only world where the LN trumps VISA, we will start fighting amongst ourselves. Maybe with less inequality, we'll see.

At least Amboss is seen as a friendly adversary and it's better they develop this tool than someone else behind our backs, to see how we can counter it.

You are much more knowledgeable in the subject and I don't fully disagree with you -- it's obviously painful to see it. Just want to play devil's advocate and realize that for every good we bring in bitcoin there will be bad. For every bad someone does to us, there will be good.