Oh man sorry to hear that on both accounts. I was wondering why you weren't around much.

I don't have very much good advice for you other than try to find something you are grateful for and focus on that and put one foot in front of the other.

Yesterday was the 3 year anniversary of my wife's mom's surprise passing. My wife was holding up well compared to prior years. She just wanted to remember and honour her mom. When I think back to the day it happened and I recall the shock and pain everyone was in I can't really describe how we got through those moments other than my wife focused on making sure her dad was ok and I focused on making sure the kids were ok and we were just grateful it happened at a time we were visiting and were able to extend our stay to help out.