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I’m leaving my school and students at the end of this month, so I’m agonising over the tone of the farewell speech I’m expected to give to the entire school. It’s customary for my principal to get departing staff to say a few words in front of the school, so yup I’m anticipating my 5 seconds of fame. 😅
Some days, I wake up, wanting to bare my soul and get vulnerable. Tell my form class kids about my own failure and how it has opened doors for me. How them failing their middle school exams has brought them into my life. (We are one of two secondary schools which exclusively accepts failures.) How our paths have crossed and how they have made my time memorable. How they have made imprints on my heart. That they matter. And I love them.
On other days, I wake up, not wanting to get so personal. Singapore is so small, and I’m certain to bump into them in one way or another after I leave the school. That I want to keep things light-hearted. Maybe I will sing the song a Malay song Garam and madu, a popular song that they have taught me. Maybe I will regale the audience with funny, wildly-out-of-context Malay words kaki gemok (fat leg) and Kenching manis (diabetes). Don’t ask me how they taught me these random words. Anyway, something to cement our time together. Some funny words that will make the whole school laugh and let my kids know that they have made a deep impression.
So, now I’m vacillating between being funny and being serious. All this indecision is costing me a lot of brain cells and emotional energy. But I guess I kinda like the struggle.
How will you choose to give your farewell speech? Which direction will you veer off towards?
I prefer the Irish goodbye.
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How do the Irish do it? Auld Lang Syne?
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Irish goodbye is when you leave without telling anyone.
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I learnt something from you today!
I wouldn’t mind a french leave either but I think my principal wants the school to acknowledge my departure haha
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69 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bishop 20 May
Your audience will most likely not remember what you say, but they'll remember how you made them feel. So say something meaningful with a big dollop of positive emotions.
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Great point. Thanks for zooming out n helping me view the situation in perspective
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Wow, this is beautifully honest — thank you for sharing this inner tug-of-war.
Honestly, I’d say: do both.
Start light and funny, make them laugh with the Malay words and memories — then let the laughter settle, and gently shift into something personal and heartfelt. Let them feel that behind the jokes, there’s someone who truly saw them, and valued every moment.
Humor opens hearts. Vulnerability fills them.
Whatever tone you land on, the fact that you're thinking this deeply already shows how much you care. That’s the speech they’ll remember — the one only you could give.
Wishing you a beautiful send-off. They’re lucky to have had you.
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Thanks for dropping by and responding so thoroughly to my situation. Especially love the bolded parts - I’m a sucker for catchy phrases like this.
Thanks for saying that I’m uniquely qualified to give a speech that is authentically mine. I almost felt goosebumps haha
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Myself, I detest "goodbyes." Truly, there's only one occasion to say, "Goodbye." Every other parting should be, "until next time ..."
You will think of the right thing to say.
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Thanks for your parting sentence. I will have faith haha
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24 sats \ 1 reply \ @suraz 20 May
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This is fierce
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24 sats \ 1 reply \ @Cje95 20 May
Instead of the tried and true Irish goodbye I would go with one of those magic trick things where you give a little speak throw the smoke thing on the ground and disappear!
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Oh dramatic. I like
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lol! I don’t know if my students will cringe haha
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24 sats \ 1 reply \ @Wumbo 20 May
How about a song?
On a serious note: I have no clue about the culture of Singapore but I would go with humor. There is often enough pomp and circumstance at official events already.
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Wah my head will roll off so fast, you can’t even say Bitcoin, haha
Thanks for weighing in! Lol at pomp n circumstance. Yes that sounds like my country
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