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It's a depressing read. But something that strengthens my resolve to give my son the opportunity to grow up outside of Korea. He loves playing. But that ability will get squandered in the coming years as academic pressure will keep building. He's 5. I already see kids his age suffering from the pressure their parents put them through.
Kim Hye-min (not her real name) has taught high school students in Seoul for over a decade. Over the years, she has watched many of her students struggle with depression and exhaustion from academic pressure. In her classroom alone, more than five students receive psychiatric counseling for depression.
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Even during break time at school, many do not go outside to play.
In a survey of 2,450 elementary schools by the teachers’ union, 90.4 percent of children said they spent their break time in the classroom doing things related to “private academies, study worksheets or online classes.”
Lee Joon-gi, an elementary school teacher in Gwangju and a member of the education creator group Gummongle, said the trend of students not heading out to playgrounds during lunch break has become more noticeable since the COVID-19 pandemic. Many schools closed playgrounds during the pandemic.
When they reopened it, complaints from parents surged, Lee said.
“Even minor incidents on the playground led to an outpouring of parental complaints, so schools began keeping students indoors during breaks,” Lee said. Additionally, new government policies requiring various safety and extracurricular education further reduced the time available for free play.
Staying in the classroom often means many would end up playing alone or with a small group of close friends.
“Many kids today have little or no experience playing with friends. Even when given the chance to play, they don’t know how to play. Screen time has replaced social time. The quality of their play has deteriorated,” the teacher said.
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Happened to be watching this YT video on the same topic (in the West). It's about how kids are not socializing normally
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Education in Singapore is also a relentless arms race. I think we are a more forgiving society in that our degree helps us get our first job, but our progression in the workforce is mainly dependent on our job performance. So, people who don’t excel in academics can still thrive in the corporate world if they build up an economically viable skill set
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What happens to kids who don't go through this? Do they end up not going to college and not getting good jobs?
I also wonder if this is only in Seoul or if it's everywhere
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I grew up in the countryside, so playing outside with friends was just normal. I’m not sure how it was in the city, but I imagine it was probably worse. I get what you’re saying, kids today don’t have as much time to play with their friends. It’s not just because of more schoolwork, but also because people’s mindset has changed. From what I see, parents don’t give kids as much freedom anymore, and that pressure you mentioned on kids, you can also feel it on the parents.
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Would it be something like a cultural shame if you just take it easy on your kid?
My wife is from China and a lot of her friends kids are also suffering from depression. I would never raise my kids in that environment.
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It's just that you don't really have a choice if you want him to become an outcast. All kids in daytime school will meet their classmates in the private academies. That's where they will make friends. It's a twisted system, but it takes a whole lot of courage and conviction to escape it. Both parents have to be on the same page. I can likely ignore social pressure, my wife can't. Even I might succumb once he lags behind his classmates because he is not taking private math or English lessons.
The easiest way will just be to take us out of the system whenever push comes to shove.
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