It's just that you don't really have a choice if you want him to become an outcast. All kids in daytime school will meet their classmates in the private academies. That's where they will make friends. It's a twisted system, but it takes a whole lot of courage and conviction to escape it. Both parents have to be on the same page. I can likely ignore social pressure, my wife can't. Even I might succumb once he lags behind his classmates because he is not taking private math or English lessons.

The easiest way will just be to take us out of the system whenever push comes to shove.