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1062 sats \ 19 comments \ @siggy47 18h BooksAndArticles

https://www.amazon.com/Nobody-Wants-Your-Sh-Decluttering/dp/1510774734

This really isn't a book review. I'm not doing an in depth analysis, since the book doesn't warrant it. That's not meant to be a criticism. It's a light hearted, sometimes funny attempt to address an important topic. It was a timely discovery for me.

One of my lifelong best friends just died. I talked about him in various posts over the years. He was a hoarder, an indiscriminate book collector, and someone who took notes all day, on little scraps of paper for at least 50 years. Now his friends and family are tasked with disposing of all his crap, which is crammed into his one bedroom apartment and two storage units.

It got me thinking. I could have easily become a hoarder myself, had I not married a woman who would harrass me about my clutter and secretly throw out my stuff without me realizing it.

The truth is we all have possessions that only we value. Not even your wife and kids will care about them once we're gone. Lately I have a desire to get rid of things. I don't think it's because I'm preparing to croak, but who knows. Regardless, I think this lighthearted book addresses a pretty serious subject. It is worth your time.

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36 sats \ 6 replies \ @Bell_curve 6h

Is your friend INTP?

I am INTP which means I have a messy desk

I work better with a messy desk

11 sats \ 5 replies \ @siggy47 OP 6h

I didn't know what that was, but I just read about it. No, that doesn't seem like my friend. He was extroverted and artsy. He also had many relationships over the years.

36 sats \ 3 replies \ @Bell_curve 6h

extroverted artistic hoarder?

this sounds like an episode of law and order, do we know the cause of death?

11 sats \ 2 replies \ @siggy47 OP 6h

Oh yeah. Throat cancer. He never smoked.

36 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bell_curve 5h

Never smoked but throat cancer???

any other cause or was it bad luck?

11 sats \ 0 replies \ @siggy47 OP 4h

Bad luck. It happens

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36 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 6h

I asked ChatGPT about your friend's personality type

here is what it said...

Based on the traits you've listed — artistic, extroverted, many relationships, and a hoarder — here's a breakdown of how they might map to Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) preferences:

Trait-by-Trait Mapping:

1. Artistic

Often linked to Perceiving (P) over Judging (J), due to openness, spontaneity, and creativity.
Also points toward Intuition (N) over Sensing (S), especially if the person is imaginative and abstract rather than grounded in concrete facts.

2. Extroverted

Clear preference for Extraversion (E) over Introversion (I).
Gets energy from social interaction and external stimuli.

3. Many relationships

Could suggest:
- Feeling (F) over Thinking (T): values interpersonal connection, emotional nuance.
- Possibly Perceiving (P) again — more flexible, less rigid in social structure.
- Strong extraversion is also reinforced here.

4. Hoarder

Might indicate:
- Sensing (S): attachment to physical items and memories tied to real-world objects.
- Could lean Judging (J) if hoarding is about control/order, or Perceiving (P) if it's more about indecision or difficulty parting with things.
- Possibly Feeling (F) — difficulty discarding due to emotional attachments.

Likely MBTI Types (Most to Least Likely):

🟨 ENFP ("The Campaigner")

Extraverted, Nintuitive, Feeling, Perceiving
Highly creative, warm, people-oriented, and idealistic.
Often cluttered environments and struggles with organization.
Strong emotional ties to people and things.

🟨 ESFP ("The Entertainer")

Extraverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving
Lives in the moment, enjoys sensory experiences, loves people.
Can be impulsive, keeps stuff that has immediate or sentimental value.
Might hoard due to nostalgia or desire to hold onto experiences.

🟨 ENFJ ("The Protagonist")

Extraverted, Nintuitive, Feeling, Judging
Charismatic and people-focused, but more structured.
Less likely to hoard unless there's a sentimental reason and emotional overattachment.

❗Note on Hoarding:

Hoarding isn't a personality type — it's a complex behavior often linked to anxiety, OCD tendencies, or trauma. While MBTI might describe personality preferences, it can't capture pathological behavior. That said, someone with strong emotional attachment and a tendency toward disorganization (especially ENFPs or ESFPs) may more easily slide into hoarding tendencies if under stress.

🔮 Most Probable MBTI: ENFP or ESFP

Would you like to narrow it further with a few yes/no questions?

191 sats \ 1 reply \ @carlosfandango 17h

Asking the former Mrs Fandango during her Marie Kondo phase..

‘But does this item bring joy darling’ ‘No… it strains the pasta. Idiot’

Eventually she got rid of another thing that didn’t bring her joy either…. and it brought him a lot of peace!

57 sats \ 0 replies \ @elvismercury 17h

I note that you are silent on the amount of peace it brought to her.

36 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 6h

I am a messy person but I know where everything is

I have a lot of closet space that I am not maximizing especially after I got rid of a dead body recently

47 sats \ 3 replies \ @SimpleStacker 17h

In my family it's the opposite. My wife has hoarder tendencies and I'm the one reminding her that we need to throw stuff out.

That being said, it feels kinda bad that the optimal thing to do is sometimes to indiscriminately send things to the landfill. I'd love to be more thoughtful about re-homing certain items, but there just isn't enough time to think so carefully about every little thing.

75 sats \ 2 replies \ @siggy47 OP 16h

He was obsessed with the idea of re-homing.

47 sats \ 1 reply \ @SimpleStacker 16h

It sounds nice in theory, but the problem is that it never actually gets done.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Signal312 13h

Yeah, sometimes it's a great kindness to people to happily accept their crap that they have a hard time getting rid of...and then getting rid of it.

61 sats \ 0 replies \ @fd055dcc2f 17h

you don't hoard for other people you hoard for your own self

47 sats \ 1 reply \ @elvismercury 17h

Ha, at first I thought you were referring to this book which I wholeheartedly endorse, if you're a writer; and which packs a similar philosophical punch, although less directly.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @siggy47 OP 16h

Oh, this is at least as appropriate a topic as the book I highlighted when it comes to my departed friend.

72 sats \ 0 replies \ @StillStackinAfterAllTheseYears 17h

I think about this a lot -- I definitely have hoarding tendencies, and while marriage and other circumstances has helped me keep it in check, I also have a lot of shit. Having been an active ebayer doesn't help -- I keep things thinking I might be able to sell them, and those pile up.

I've got five boxes of stuff ready to be picked up by a local charity tomorrow, and as soon as it's picked up, I'll schedule them for their next bi-monthly pickup. Putting it on the calendar forces me to remember to keep weeding stuff.

47 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 18h

My dad is a big accumulator. He probably doesn’t rise to hoarder levels, but he’s definitely a prepper.