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I need your help, dads!
1185 sats \ 37 comments \ @Shugard 29 Jul alter_native
I became a father most recently. I have become increasingly interested in alternative methods of raising kids.
The Bitcoin rabbit hole opens so many doors, so please help me to open the door to becoming a wonderful dad!
I already have a clear idea of the kind of dad I want to be and the kind of parenting I want to do.
But more input doesn't hurt, and more views help!
I have finished Bryan Caplan's book Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids, and @denlillaapan was kind enough to give me a copy of my new book, I Am Not Your Bruh, by George Mekhail.
So, here is my call to action to all you dads out there!
Do you have any reading recommendations? Or podcasts, for that matter?
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54 sats \ 8 replies \ @Undisciplined 29 Jul
You might check out Emily Oster's book Crib Sheet. It's a really good overview of how strong the empirical evidence really is for a whole bunch of different parenting topics.
As with Caplan's message, most of these claims are vastly overstated compared to how strong the evidence is.
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42 sats \ 4 replies \ @denlillaapan 29 Jul
I have heard of this one, aaah.
She was complete crap on Covid, so I had mentally relegated any/all her writing to the trashbin. Maybe I'll make an exception for this
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18 sats \ 3 replies \ @Undisciplined 29 Jul
She was actually better than 90% of the mainstream on Covid, but that's a very low bar. For instance, she was one of the main voices against school closures (amongst people who had leftwing followers).
Her problem is that she's very smart at evaluating empirical data, but very bad at seeing through propaganda.
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42 sats \ 2 replies \ @denlillaapan 29 Jul
She was actually better than 90% of the mainstream on Covid, but that's a very low bar.
huh... yeah, maybe that says more about me than it does about her HAHA.
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33 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 29 Jul
I think it's fair, because she was a prominent voice and ended up being wrong about almost everything, just like the rest of the establishment.
She takes a ton of shit from our side because of that very embarrassing article about how both sides need to forgive each other. What people miss is that she wasn't talking to us, she was talking to the normies.
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42 sats \ 0 replies \ @denlillaapan 23h
She takes a ton of shit from our side because of that very embarrassing article about how both sides need to forgive each other. What people miss is that she wasn't talking to us, she was talking to the normies.
yeah, esp that one annoyed me. And fair, maybe she's trying to be a bridge and whatever, but man... unforgivable
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42 sats \ 2 replies \ @Shugard OP 29 Jul
Will put it on my list! Thank you sir!
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21 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 29 Jul
She has another great one, Expecting Better, but it's about pregnancy stuff and it sounds like you're out of those woods already.
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42 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 29 Jul
But maybe back into the woods in the future hopefully!
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102 sats \ 2 replies \ @Scoresby 29 Jul
I have done my best to never read any parenting guidance or advice books. Nor to listen to any podcasts on the topic.
Children are the experience of fire and muck and the best you can do is to be patient and consistent and yourself. Always be striving to treat 'em like little adults because they are far more capable than they seem (they're tricky like that) -- and remember that they, like adults, just badly want to be found lovely in someone's eyes -- and you're doing good when you get them to the point where they have reasons to see their own loveliness with their own eyes.
But for babies...just snuggle them a bunch and change their diaper and play with them.
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120 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 29 Jul
But for babies...just snuggle them a bunch and change their diaper and play with them.
I do that multiple times every day! And I love it!
As I said, I am not looking for guidance, as I have a very clear idea of how I want to do the parenting job. I just want to hear more people's views.
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204 sats \ 0 replies \ @denlillaapan 29 Jul
But for babies...just snuggle them a bunch and change their diaper and play with them.
I did this (minus the diaper... that's the parent's dirty job!)
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72 sats \ 5 replies \ @guerratotal 29 Jul
Future man - Douglas Wilson
If you have sons, this is your book. It doesn't matter if you're a Christian or not.
In fact, I'd recommend any of his books you can find.
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23 sats \ 1 reply \ @398ja 14h
Thanks, just bought the audio book.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @guerratotal 10h
Ohhh, great.....it's going to be a very interesting trip...!!!
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23 sats \ 0 replies \ @denlillaapan 29 Jul
ooooh, interesting cover!
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23 sats \ 1 reply \ @Shugard OP 29 Jul
What an awesome title! Thanks man!
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @guerratotal 29 Jul
you are welcome
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35 sats \ 1 reply \ @nolem 29 Jul
No idea about books, just get one thing done, socialise your kid with other kids before they are 3.
If you don't they will struggle socially forever
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 29 Jul
I have heard that. Socialising is important for making children socially desirable between the ages of two and four. This way, the community will accept them, kids will engage with them in play, and adults won't try to avoid them.
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28 sats \ 1 reply \ @teremok 29 Jul
Congrats bruh!
Look at your kids in the eye, often, no phone in hand, and realize how creative, powerful, amazing, creatures they are. People say AI this AI that but have they ever seen a child engage with the world? This is a sight like no other. Non-parents will never understand (and that's absolutely fine btw)
Children are more present than buddhist monks who practice being present for 50 years.
My observations led me to end up homeschooling my two kids. They are the happiest kids in the world.
Books are good but follow your and their instincts, provided you have good instincts ;)
Edit: as others mentioned, when they are babies just hang on tight. The craziness ends at some point.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 13h
My observations led me to end up homeschooling my two kids. They are the happiest kids in the world.
That's my plan as well!
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21 sats \ 1 reply \ @398ja 16h
https://peacefulparenting.com/ is a great resource, and it's free.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 13h
Thanks!
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @grayruby 23h
No. Just do the best you can.
Love them, support them. Keep them from making the catastrophic mistakes but otherwise let them fail and learn. Be tough on them regarding the important stuff (habits, morals, principles etc) but be easy going regarding everything else.
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @TRUTHSEEKER20 23h
i dont have any reading to suggest but i do think it is more of an instict to be dad it is just kicks in i see that you are adoptig ew ways to raise your children and that is fantastic i have got a point which is just be there for him/her no matter what we are indeed act like mothers as well but subliminaly if you got mt meaning, hope this may be a great journey and have a lovely tim
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @OT 23h
I found this to be interesting. His book is called: How to Raise a Sovereign Child
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21 sats \ 1 reply \ @anon 29 Jul
If you’re planning on homeschooling checkout forest schools for kids programs. Learning strictly outdoors with other kids.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 13h
Do you have more information about that? Sounds super cool!
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @abhishandy 29 Jul
https://a.co/d/jgKwmUt
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63 sats \ 1 reply \ @Fabs 29 Jul
Don't forget that kids tend to mimic their parents; If you want them to do something, do it yourself and they'll most likely follow, or at least take note of it.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Shugard OP 13h
Good advice!
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @denlillaapan 29 Jul
leeesssgoo, peeeps. GIVE THE MAN YOUR BEST TIPS & TRIX!
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @Coinsreporter 29 Jul
The Road to Character
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @PictureRoom 9h
Congrats, thats amazing!
Bring that kid out in the sun, let it swim and feed it the highest quality foods!
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog 16h
“It’s ok not to share: and other renegade rules”
I read baby books until they were born and now im too exhausted lmao
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @felipe 21h
Apparently no one has recommended the most obvious, the most important and essential book of all time (past, present and future):
The Bible, the word of God, breathed out by God Himself
There you'll find the instructions on how to become the the best dad ever and, most importantly, you will point your kids to the best gift they can receive, which is eternal life in Jesus Christ
Bonus recommendation:
Successful Christian Parenting, Part 1 of 3 (Selected Scriptures) by John MacArthur
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