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100 sats \ 1 reply \ @claos545 5 Aug \ on: How would you deal with this uncomfortable conversation situation? AskSN
Yes, many times, especially when cultural respect dynamics are in play. What’s worked for me is asking genuine questions that subtly challenge assumptions without directly confronting them. Something like, “That’s interesting, I had read it works differently. What do you think about X?” This lets them reflect without feeling corrected.
Sometimes I also plant seeds, mention a podcast, article, or example casually, then let them come to it on their own later. It’s slower, but keeps the relationship intact and opens space for curiosity instead of defensiveness.
I agree. I’ve been around a lot of older men at church and this I find to be the best way.
Most of the time I am the one listening and asking questions. So it’s very rare but the once or twice time I’ve had some experience in a particular field or area. The best way to do it respectfully is to plant seeds like you said or to say things in way that will lead them there.
I have also seen slightly older men do it, and it really does work well.
It has more to do with showing respect to the elders in the room. The point of any discussion should be to grow the tribe’s knowledge stronger not anyone’s individual ego.
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