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smart+untrusting+low empathy seems like such a curse. you're smart enough to detect people don't like you, but can't tell why on your own and don't trust anyone else to tell you why. and the result of learning people don't like you, usually, is not liking them.

worse than dumb + untrusting + low empathy?

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136 sats \ 4 replies \ @k00b 11 Sep

if you're dumb you don't know people don't like you so you can at least enjoy the company of other people

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379 sats \ 2 replies \ @sox 11 Sep

what if you willingly choose to live a life thinking by default that nobody dislikes you nor likes you

I live naively by this because I really can't afford to think about it otherwise I would just isolate myself.

I just analyze my actions and how they can affect the other person. And I have to admit that, because of this, I get a whole bunch of anxiety by people that don't communicate much, but I just tell myself to keep going and that people are entitled to their own opinions.

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136 sats \ 0 replies \ @ek 12 Sep
by default that nobody dislikes you nor likes you

oh right, I think that's also true, most people don't have the time, energy etc. to think as much about other people as we think they do about us. everyone is mostly occupied thinking about themselves (no judgement!).

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136 sats \ 0 replies \ @k00b 11 Sep

sounds like a gift more than anything :)

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My problem is, I'm smart enough to question whether my perception of whether people like me is accurate or not, thereby leaving me in a quandary of not actually knowing whether anyone likes me, short of asking them, but even if you ask they probably won't tell you the truth.

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Negative feedback loop?

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46 sats \ 1 reply \ @k00b 11 Sep

yep that's the crux of the curse i think

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A curse it is, indeed.

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