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174 sats \ 13 replies \ @Scoresby 11h \ on: The Economics of Dating that Ruined a Generation econ
I'll add one to the sad list of reasons why people seem not to be finding relationships as much as they used to:
Waiting till you are old (I could have palliated this and said older, but who are we kidding: anyone over 30 is old) makes it harder to find a relationship.
When you are young, you are dumb, but also you aren't quite so firmly set in your ways. You haven't necessarily made your mind up about everything, or if you have, you don't have very well-considered opinions. Also, being young you are more concerned with sex than with being right. Plus, the dumbness of youth means you can't really fathom how awful your partner might turn out to be.
Get a little wisdom in your noggin, and some experience born of hard knocks, and maybe a win or two that makes you feel like you might actually know what you're talking about -- and it becomes very hard to find a partner who you think is your equal (and who will put up with you).
The message I received in my youth was don't worry about getting married young! Wait till you are well-established! Get a career going, maybe date around a little, figure it out in your thirties. That is shit advice. Get married when your young.
Seconded (provided you found a right person)
The most important parts of your life, if you're lucky, will be your spouse and children. The sooner you get to those stages, the more of your life you get to bask in it.
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Yes, if you are lucky, but as the article and overwhelming evidence suggests the chances of finding the right person are not good.
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There's a reason I said "a right person" rather than "the right person"
what he said
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Yes the feminist narrative of women being equal is conflated into women being educated and prepared for a career and so the smartest ones have invested too much in career to have children when they are best able to and so only the least intelligent women still have children young.
Feminism is just one manifestation of the disease of entitlement that corrupts a culture that has been dominant too long. The cult of the rights and entitlements of the individual ignores the duty and obligations of the individual to the society that has raised and supported them.
Most Libertarians will choke on that last sentence as Libertarian ideology is just as poisonous and drenched with the sense of individuals entitlement as feminism is.
Both are diseases of the modern western civilisation and make it vulnerable to more unified and collectively minded cultures- primarily China.
Get a little wisdom in your noggin, and some experience born of hard knocks, and maybe a win or two that makes you feel like you might actually know what you're talking about -- and it becomes very hard to find a partner who you think is your equal (and who will put up with you).
fuck, this portion makes my heart sink. ugh.
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why? because you feel that way, or because you think women feel that way?
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I feel exactly that... very annoyed that I spent my prime matchmaking years (i.e., university) at the library rather than constantly at the social events. Completely misunderstood what the real purpose was... and now, here we are -.-
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