OK, here's a blackpilled (bluepilled...? whatever pill I'm supposed to take here...), really tragic story from our beloved The Economist
I have lots to say about this topic, not all of it derived from a dispassionate rational analysis.
I don’t date conservative or moderate men,” says Nancy Anteby, a 30-year-old New Yorker who works in social media. “I only date liberal men.” Politics is not her only concern. She is also looking for someone ambitious, with a stable career, who is Jewish and, perhaps most important, shares her desire to start a family. Finding dates who tick all of these boxes is not easy.
Good luck with that, asshat.
What's wrong with this broken market?
The fact that a large proportion of single people would rather be in a relationship (whether they are still looking for one or have given up hope) suggests that either there is some sort of dating-market failure that is preventing compatible people from finding one another, or that society is changing in ways that are making large numbers of singles incompatible.
100%.
"Europe each new generation is less likely to be married or living with a partner than previous ones at the same age"
Here's a year-or-so outdated FT graph that keeps me up at night (not literally...)
"As men have drifted to the right and women have become more liberal in America and parts of Europe, politics is getting in the way of pillow-talk,”
Across the OECD on average 51% of women aged 25-34 had a university degree in 2019, compared with 39% of men. That makes the old pattern impossible to sustain. “Highly educated women who still want to marry up won’t find enough candidates,” says Albert Esteve, the director of the Centre for Demographic Studies in Barcelona. “So the question is, are they going to start marrying down?”
there are growing numbers of lonely hearts, pining for a partner but unable to secure one. Don’t want a ring on it: There is an alarming mismatch in this regard between women and men. In the Pew survey, 62% of single women did not want to date, whereas only 37% of single men felt the same way.
if mathematics were the only driving force, rather than cultural norms, there would have been a big rise in the share of couples where the woman is better educated. Yet the expectation that women should marry up is hard to dispel. Researchers in Germany, for example, found that highly educated women over the age of 30 were more likely to remain single than settle for a man with less education.
The raw mathematics imply that either large sways of impotent, underachieving men have to pull themselves up by their bootstraps (impossible, given the cultural norms and institutional barriers so strongly favoring women over men), or, the much more readily available opportunity: women widen their scope.
Have you tried feeling differently?
Do I blame women for this?
Yeah, pretty much. But in a story as old as the Bible itself (#804036, #1011981)), men shrinking their responsibilities and women being placed in positions they’re not equipped to indicate a prior failing on the class of men themselves. Yes, it’s our fault. No, there’s nothing much we can do about it for this generation. Yes, the more readily available equilibrium solution is for women to change their goddamn minds and behavior.
Salty? Yes, absolutely. True? Probably.
Is the relationship market hopelessly broken? Undoubtedly.
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