I hear you! Great post. One more thing to add.

I might want people to give me the emotional support that I think I need but really I have those emotions so it's my honor to give other people the respect that I want. For me that just lets me focus on improving myself and not worrying what other people think (about me).

When I come in contact with my wife. I need to listen, to care, to learn from her experience of the day. I might want to get frustrated because I can't focus on reading, shit posting or something else but instead I give her the respect (look again) that she deserves.