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1293 sats \ 6 replies \ @k00b 23 Jan \ on: My tips to cope with parenthood meta

Kind of a tangent but this made me think of my aunt's parenting advice: "don't expect your children to behave differently than you do." She was saying that your main task as a parent is to be a role model and even if you're a bad role model your children will use you as one.

902 sats \ 3 replies \ @Scoresby 23 Jan

My aunt's parenting advice was to treat your kids with "tender neglect." She has awesome grown up kids and so I really embraced this.

Found out years later she actually said "attended neglect" and I just misheard.

211 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 23 Jan

Thank you for commenting. I suspect I will remember “attended neglect” for life. Such a profound concept expressed within two words!

128 sats \ 1 reply \ @k00b 23 Jan

I'm glad those probably amount to the same thing. :)

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 23 Jan

All roads lead to Rome, as they say

609 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 23 Jan

I think that’s very true. I was raised being caned by my mum. Some form of physical violence was deemed necessary in disciplining one’s children for their generation. So once I hit my son on his hand out of frustration. He cried and complained to his mother. I have never hit him again - partly because I know he will find my wife for comfort but mostly because I don’t want him to copy my action and hit his sister out of frustration. Like it or not, children mirror our moves.

609 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 23 Jan

I certainly heard about it from my daughter when I was trying to stay up past bedtime to watch the end of Chiefs/Bills. At least our emphasis on bedtime has sunk in.