Okay, I think you are experiencing personality differences. Because I’m quick to whip out the phone but am more relaxed about cleanliness.

Do you know my wife would flip if I leave the kitchen sink wet? Haha

Haha... Its OK, I lived in China for 15 years. Its just a different culture so we need to adjust.

The main one is that we need to come to an agreement on what to do when our 2 year old is playing up. I think she's a bit too quick to get the phone out whereas I'd like to use the phone as a last resort. 

Also she has a high level of cleanliness which is good, but I kinda wish she would relax a bit.

I’m Chinese! What areas do you two argue about? Maybe I can provide some perspective 

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How Japanese parents raise their kids

Screen time is a tough one. We don't have a tv, but I'm starting to think its better than a phone or an iPad. My son is constantly scrolling.

My wife is Chinese so we also have quite a few areas of disagreement. 