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IRL Friendships in Decline - How Often Do You See Friends?

2499 sats \ 44 comments \ @kr 19 Feb charts

Curious to hear from stackers on this one… how often do you go out with friends in the real world?

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827 sats \ 3 replies \ @elvismercury 19 Feb

Follow-up question: whatever the answer to how often you see your friends is, do you wish the number was higher?

262 sats \ 2 replies \ @kr OP 19 Feb

for sure.

i went to school in alaska so many university friends are now scattered across north america (mostly on the west coast)

in 2019 i did a road trip around the continent and caught up with many during the trip, but i’ve only seen a couple of them since then.

194 sats \ 1 reply \ @BlokchainB 20 Feb

Alaska!!!!! Amazing you ever go to Stika?

50 sats \ 0 replies \ @kr OP 20 Feb

i wish, didn’t spend any time in sitka but saw a few of the towns near anchorage

584 sats \ 0 replies \ @OT 19 Feb

I'm pretty bad with this one. With a few young kids I'm finding it hard to get the time.

We are lucky that our apartment community are quite friendly and social (most of them anyway, still a few we could do without). It does seem to be pretty rare these days in the city to know all your neighbors.

395 sats \ 3 replies \ @grayruby 19 Feb

Do my wife and kids count as friends? If not, rarely. We have one other couple that we see as friends occasionally and I usually go back to the city to catch a Jays game with friends once or twice a year. Otherwise I mostly only hang out with my family and my friends on SN and I like it that way.

50 sats \ 0 replies \ @doofus 20 Feb

Same here. We like to keep our world small. It helped get through the pandemic without getting involved in the hysteria on both sides.

50 sats \ 1 reply \ @kr OP 19 Feb

i think they count, the original survey was done with teenagers who likely wouldn’t have a wife and kids, so that might make for a better comparison across age groups

176 sats \ 0 replies \ @grayruby 19 Feb

I would definitely say my 13 year old hangs out with his friends in person a lot less than I did at 13.

562 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei 19 Feb

I think it’s really alarming how the young prefer to interact exclusively with each other through online gaming. In my country, we have to teach our students Social Skills because we find that they don’t know how to interact with the people around them appropriately.

Back to me. Practically zero. Living from wire to wire now that I’m raising two young kids. I miss my (once-active, always-vibrant) social life so badly - and honestly, sometimes I feel resentful being trapped in parenthood.

400 sats \ 0 replies \ @siggy47 19 Feb

3-4 times a month

369 sats \ 0 replies \ @erict875 20 Feb

That's a sad chart because the teens is the moment to seal true friendships for life, and learn important social and negotiation skills.

I personally have a couple of friends that I see on a regular basis. Our friendship revolves around our common interest for sports. We meet at least once a week, either for training or other social events.

I also have a few more people that I've known for much longer but are living abroad. We see each other very rarely, but I would still consider them as close friends.

Coincidently, an old friend from school that i had not seen for several decades, found my number in a random WhatsApp group and surprised called me this morning.

Lockdowns have taught me the value of true friendship.

286 sats \ 0 replies \ @gnilma 20 Feb

3 of my friends and I have a weekly morning walk thing going on, where we would go for a approx 1hr walk early Saturday morning and go for breakfast after, rain or shine or snow or storm. So I see these 3 guys once a week.

Other than that, we have a core friend group of 8 people and we go for birthday dinners for each person's birthday. It's a tradition we started and kept doing since high school. So we get to see everyone at least 8 times a year.

235 sats \ 0 replies \ @lrm_btc 19 Feb

We still spend time together a lot, multiple times per week. Though I will say, it has started to feel more and more redundant (perhaps that's the wrong word) due to our increasing ability to spend time together virtually. I suppose that's one of the driving factors for the data here.

222 sats \ 0 replies \ @03479d0ee6 19 Feb

I used to see them once or twice a week, and don't know if it's coincidence or just life, but we started being parents and covid lockdows hit, so after covid I see them like once every 3 months probably. I think in my case with covid we lost our friendship routines to have a coffee every week.

162 sats \ 2 replies \ @Signal312 19 Feb

Meeting up regularly with friends is tough. Do pick-up sports count as meeting with friends? I'd say yes, so that's a couple times a week. I do a couple classes, a few times a week.

Without those, I'm lucky if it's twice a week, of actually scheduling to meet up with friends. Wish it were more.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 19 Feb

Yes and you’re getting exercise

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @kr OP 19 Feb

yeah those definitely count

516 sats \ 1 reply \ @kepford 19 Feb

Not often enough. Working on changing that. This is not a good stat. Not good for individuals or society.

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @kr OP 20 Feb

same here, i originally bookmarked this stat as a reminder for myself to work on staying in touch with friends more

263 sats \ 1 reply \ @zarko 19 Feb

i used to have a band

then came covid .. and that's all gone

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 19 Feb

COVID was a combination of 1984 and a brave new world

203 sats \ 0 replies \ @rhombus 19 Feb

What are friends?

139 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 19 Feb

Once a month but my excuse is I am old

92 sats \ 2 replies \ @nicosey 20 Feb

BJJ fixes this...

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Signal312 20 Feb

BJJ? What's that?

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @nicosey 20 Feb

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu

111 sats \ 1 reply \ @TNStacker 19 Feb

Much less often and not nearly enough

21 sats \ 0 replies \ @cyberpunk02 19 Feb

second that, its the secret doom scroll virus attack

84 sats \ 2 replies \ @k00b 19 Feb

I mean I work around a bunch of them 5 days/week but I'm not sure if that's in or out. Other than those I see at work, once every three months?

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @kr OP 19 Feb

true, everyone at the lab is very friendly with each other so i’d say that definitely counts

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 19 Feb

Teenagers presumably see each other at school

79 sats \ 1 reply \ @026180d3a3 19 Feb

I'm old enough to have traded out all my friends. What remains is my wife and my spiritual groups which are functionally friends.

20 sats \ 0 replies \ @zarko 19 Feb

same here

46 sats \ 0 replies \ @TheBTCManual 20 Feb

Twice a week at least, because we all play football together, but it has gone way down over the years as jobs, families and such take priority, if it wasn't for sport man I'd probably be really fat and lonely

24 sats \ 4 replies \ @hodlpleb 20 Feb

I do not live in the same city as any of my childhood, high school, college, or late 20s friends.

Basically, I never see them.

We text, sometimes.

I do not spend social time with my coworkers.

I have maybe 1 “friend” I have developed locally.

My social life consists of my kids, their school activities, my wife’s family, and my wife’s friends & husbands, whom I don’t really like spending time with that much.

0 sats \ 3 replies \ @hodlpleb 20 Feb

On the other hand, my wife has several high school friends that are local, and an endless pool of “mom friends”, with a few very close mom friends. She sees some of them at least once a week. Often multiple friend outings in a week, but this is her life being the caretaker of the children. They do activities while I am at work.

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @fm 20 Feb

How is she doing? Any developments? What about you?

100 sats \ 1 reply \ @hodlpleb 20 Feb

Yes, was going to write a follow-up when I can sit down for it.

Things are trending positive (good) overall. Going to be 4-6 months of treatment and then surgery, so certainly a hard road ahead, but everyone seems upbeat and hopeful.

21 sats \ 0 replies \ @fm 20 Feb

Glad to hear buddy! Stay strong

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @anon 20 Feb

Definitely worth checking out your local bitcoin meetups or bitdevs. Meet some like minded people who are likely better friend candidates than most you'll meet.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @td 20 Feb

I think it is just a corollary of getting older. After school or uni, where you are surrounded by pals, work or more importantly, family, become priority, people move. As such there is less opportunity for things happen spontaneously.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 20 Feb

Netflix and chill

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @southside263 20 Feb

Got a young family now and moved from my home town so never see my school friends…

I’ve quit my football team to focus on IRL bitcoin meetups this year tho 💀