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138 sats \ 2 replies \ @Undisciplined 28 Feb \ on: What are your hopes for your children? meta
That really resonated with me. My daughter is definitely a free spirit. Her various teachers tell us what they're working on with her and their struggles getting her to do what they want.
It's possible that I'm too dismissive of their concerns, but I don't think it's on her to just conform to what others are trying to get her to do. Why isn't it on the teachers to make their activities worthwhile?
As far as I'm concerned, as long as she's enjoying the activities and getting along with the other kids, I don't really care how difficult it is for the adults. It is their job after all. Her dance teacher has done a great job of conveying that she has to cooperate if she wants to keep dancing. Since she does want to keep dancing, she's doing better at following directions.
I hope my daughter will value her time and her goals without undue pressure to conform to arbitrary expectations.
I remember you saying how you have to be your daughter’s spokesperson sometimes, which kinda makes you annoyed because this makes you feel that the other adults are not trying to meet the point where your daughter is at.
The dance teacher sounds really lovely. Acknowledging your girl’s spirit while insisting that she abide by class routines. We all need a taskmaster to instil discipline in our little ones haha. N sometimes all a kid needs is the feeling of being understood by an adult figure
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Fortunately, she's a very charming kid. Even the teachers who struggle with her still seem to like her and she makes friends with other kids very easily.
I have no problem with teachers setting expectations for their classroom and trying to maintain them. If she's too disruptive, they can ask us to take her out (which her dance teacher has done before).
In my opinion, the important lesson she needs to learn is not the specific rules of each classroom, but rather the importance of cooperating with people who have something valuable to offer you.
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