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10 sats \ 4 replies \ @ablunderfilledlife 28 Feb \ parent \ on: What are your hopes for your children? meta
I've never heard of it as an immutable trait. Is that your thinking or does it have some psychological grounding? Not challenging, just situating.
I've always put resilience of skill (or set of skills) and character trait. It's something that you can teach people to hone and improve through technique, but then there are some that make it look natural, where maybe they learned those and other techniques very early.
My thinking and my experience
As far as teaching resilience, how effective? I doubt you can teach someone to be resilient. Can you teach someone to be mentally tough? Unlikely
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I think someone can teach another to be mentally tougher!
The military, especially elite forces, apply training techniques that make their guys mentally tougher. I admit that to get to that level, there is a degree of criteria of mental toughness needed as a prerequisite, but I would argue that they weren't that mentally tough at age 10 or 15. They had to develop it.
Some of the techniques that they use:
- Extreme Physical Training
- Stress Inoculation
- Visualization and Mental Rehearsal Exercises (I remember reading a great article about how firefighters deal with fear and panic, and how visualization exercises help them overcome it)
- Breathing Techniques (box breathing comes to mind)
- Adversity Training
- Goal Setting
- Team Bonding
- After-Action Reviews (basically debriefs that allow them to metacognitively improve)
A more grounded or close-to-home example might be running with a friend. Helping that friend, who is exhausted, to make a goal a bit further (just get to the mailbox) and then to extend that goal (now to the end of the block) and so on--that is helping them learn to chunk a difficult task into tasks that seem more manageable. Getting them to recognize that voice inside their head that says that they can't, and then helping them do it anyway--that shows them the difference between self-talk and actual ability.
I would be interested to know @brandonsbytes's thoughts on this. I think he's done some pretty intense training that required him to take his mind/body to the next level.
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I just got inspired by you to send the following message to my dancers to prep their minds for a school performance next Fri. Thanks mate
Morning!
The training is tough, but the end is near.
Positive visualisation
Imagine yourself slaying the dance moves with a gigantic smile on your face. This will increase the fun factor!
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What is the military treatment for ptsd ?
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