378 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei 14 Apr \ on: Wife's Cancer Diagnosis (Part #5) BooksAndArticles
Congratulations! You earned yourself many superhuman parenting stories. I wrote about mine here.
I thought of this the last time but didn’t feel that it was in my place to suggest to you what to do. But I will say it now haha. Given what I know about kids from teaching them, could you assign your kids a physical/concrete task to focus their mind (and worries) on? For instance, I got my form class to pen a letter of appreciation to their Art teacher:
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Children need to outpour their love. What would be the best way for you to facilitate this happening?
Since I’m already in teacher mode, I would like to introduce you to the Book Creator website. It will allow your kids to pen a book for their mummy. I wrote this for my son. It sounds like the kind of big project that can engage your kids for a few days or so - which will buy you bandwidth to do all the things you have to do but dread doing.
In regard to yourself, have you listened to Nightbirde’s “It’s Ok” on [America’s Got Talent]?(https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rq4RB6v51E4) I find that in my moments of weakness, it helps me to play a particular song (doesn’t have to be this one, but I thought you might resonate with it) to death. Over n over again. Until I steel myself to pick up the pieces again. Music often feels cathartic - leverage it when you can.
You are weak n you are strong
You will emerge through this fine n you will be scarred
Have the years in mind but live one hour at a time
Stay strong 💪
Have had some success with giving the kids tasks. The 8-year-old can be hot or cold to these types of things, all depends on the mood. I've found that things like a Lego set can give him a lot focus and put him in a really good mental space - though he tends to reject ideas like "let's make a birthday card", etc. He's very creative, but likes to come up with his own ideas. I'll give him materials, but too much direction tends to derail him.
I will listen to the music when I have some space :-)
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