60 sats \ 2 replies \ @Signal312 7 May \ on: Raising a child into being a good human, instead of being a good worker. mostly_harmless
Off the top of my head:
- Encourage/require that they WORK, in terms of nothing gets done for them, that the child can do themselves. Must help around the house, must help with cooking, cleaning, at the minimum
- Encourage/require, as early as possible, that they work for pay outside the house
- Allow only limited screen time. This is much tougher than it seems, but I think it's critical.
- Only if you limit screen time will most children have the inclination to pursue hobbies and interests. Screen time (video games, surfing, etc) is so addictive that kids don't develop hobbies and interests anymore, not nearly like before. Or those hobbies are instagram surfing, and the like.
- Consider homeschooling in a supportive community.
- If you're not religious, consider becoming religious and being part of a religious community, for the sake of the children. I know this is not easy, but I've seen enough of the world to believe that atheism, and no religion whatsoever, is not a good life plan in the long run, over generations.
And it may seem odd, in the context of your question, that I emphasize work. However, I don't really believe that public schooling is designed to develop good workers, who focus on career. Most of it is useless, a waste of time. It's evolved as the least-common-denominator path to employing a bunch of school teachers and other employees. The focus is not on the kids. There's so much make-work useless feel-good bureaucracy in public education.
Hm, you're keen on having them develop a "hands-on" mentality, ain't it?
I'm with you on point (4)5, 6, and 7, though, since I also think that children and young adults are way too much online, and that's certainly not always in their best interest (I can speak from experience).
Moreover, homeschooling allows for 1:1 lessons, as well as the ability to structure the lessons in a way one see's fit, which translates to flexibility in both duration and contents of the respective lessons, both of which could benefit the child in multiple ways.
Furthermore, although religion can be a source of friction and work in someone's disadvantage (women under Sharia-law), i'm largely with you on integrating it, as well, as it can give the child a moral compass and "ruleset" to live by; I think i'd go with Buddhism, you?
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I think, even more than the moral compass part of things, the religious community is very important. So Buddhism wouldn't work for that, because there's so little community (at least where I live). You'd have to practice it on your own, which in my opinion defeats the whole purpose of having a religion...
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