61 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei 19 May \ on: Groupthink as a survival strategy culture
I don’t know. 🤷♂️
Sometimes, women know exactly what they want for dinner, but they don’t want to say it out loud because they want to see if their male companions have been paying attention to their needs. Reading the air is what they prioritise.
Also, I don’t necessarily think it is a gender thing. I can imagine that in collectivistic societies like Japan, a group of ladies will refrain from speaking their minds when they are not close to one another, out of consideration for their friends’ feelings. I watched Korean reality dating shows and struck by how everyone - men n women alike - only started to speak candidly when a brave participant initiated the manner of communication by suggesting “let’s drop honorifics!”
Pls continue to share your writing xP
Hi! I've tried to articulate a few places in replies that I do not believe this is a gendered issue. In another comment I wrote the following:
I believe indecision, conformity, and groupthink are behaviors that may be exhibited by any member of the species as secondary social strategies/behaviors to ensure survival by deferring power to another party.My argument highlighted “women” being indecisive about dinner because I felt that the argument may come to a reasonable conclusion rather quickly.Now, I realize it’s a relatively innocuous example of this phenomenon of indecision/agreeability (compared to the bystander effect, or how regular men became Nazis) and both stand by the example and wonder how to continue to write on the topic.
I appreciate your perspective on how this may be expressed more dramatically in other cultures! That wasn't something I'd considered initially!