20 sats \ 27 replies \ @cryotosensei 2 Jun \ on: Stacker Saloon
@Satosora
Is it true that toilet training is taken so seriously in America that some parents begin toilet training soon after their child’s first birthday?
Got that from The Culture Code. Curious enough to ask you 👆🏽
It depends on the situation.
I do know for a fact in taiwan.....they dont care.
They leave the toilet training to the school, usually starting around 2 to 3.
The parents dont care.
In america, parents care and have to get them toilet trained to get them out of diapers and into school.
Schools wont accept kids that arent toilet trained.
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I confess that I think it is unnecessarily punitive for preschools to reject toddlers who are not toilet trained. And yes I see it as the role of the preschool since my child spends most of his time there haha.
I wonder if this nonchalance is a Chinese thing. Let me investigate.
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why, what's it like where you're from? I think 1/2 is the right time
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Erm so my boy is 5, but he is still wearing diapers.
With the help of his preschool, he is able and willing to walk up to the urinal if he wants to pee. But he has rejected my wife’s and my suggestions to poo in the toilet bowl.
I don’t know if he is far behind his peers in Singapore. I’m a bit concerned, but I don’t really care. All in good time haha
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This is not a crime, I recall when I was super young peeing on the bed. Maybe I was 4/5 at that time. Who hasn't done this at least once? But with training and encouragement, you'll get more from your boy. Don't ever make it a bad experience, because this could have negative effects on him growing up.
Just try again, and encourage with treats? I don't know if that works? For animals, it does, but I'm not so sure for babies.
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Lol. What animals do you keep?
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I don't have any currently, but when I did. I had a dog. I encouraged them to do it outside by explaining it in a soft voice(at the scene of the crime), and let them know it's wrong. I think dogs understands and after repetition they get the clue. Hitting isn't necessary, because this can have negative effects on you as well.
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You sound like a calm n composed individual. 👌
I hit my son lightly on his wrist once. He went to complain to his wife. I never hit him again. Haha
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Because I was beaten, and neglected growing up. We had a family dog, I got angry one day because I was locked out from the house after school. I forgot my house key and was in elementary school. I started to hit my dog, Lucy out of frustration.
Because everyone in my family hit me. I saw the fear in her eyes and have never hit an animal and person since. It took a long, long time to get over that. I am at peace with this now, I can't deny it still hurts. When I hear OLD OLD folks call it discipline, I punch walls and tell them the next one will be in their face.
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It works well if you move his toilet into the bathroom and just go together.
Just give him lots of water, and go to the bathroom every 30 mins.
Also, dont use diapers. He needs to feel that he wet himself.
I know it is a lot more work, but he needs to understand that feeling.
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So, my friend living in Sydney just said that preschools there also reject children (3-5 year olds) if they are not toilet trained. This toilet training thingy could be more widespread than I have expected!
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Teachers are different in the USA.
You might be able to put the kids in a daycare system without being toilet trained.
Just not in a public or private school.
At least from my perceptive, I thought the taiwanese parents were lazy.
They enjoy keeping their kids childish.
They also dont seem to spend enough time with them and foist them off on the grandparents.