This is very sad when you have loved, paid attention to, and trusted someone only to be betrayed by the same person.
I realize that betrayal is really painful when it comes from the person you have always cared for deeply. A dream biography becomes a fiction when betrayal comes into the picture.
The betrayal of one’s expectations during a relationship is one of the most painful experiences because it resembles a violation of trust by a close person. You believe this person is someone you can really trust, and he or she becomes the person you wanna share the rest of your life with.
As for allowing this to occur, this is most startling; people only want what is best for them, and enduring this punishment is very painful. There is so much weight in your chest, your feelings are drowning in it and the pain has stacked to an unmeasurable high.
It is quite permissible to shout, to utter evils, to yell, and to become cross. But there are certain things that you should always remember: not all people are for you and not all people abandon or cheat you. They may betray you and may forget all the good things that you have done for them.
Now I fully understand that quite often the person to whom you are willing to sacrifice your life, is the one who’s holding the gun.
Beware, be smarter, and protect yourself from those people who join your circle. Avert or unfollow people who consume your friendly/disposition, smog. It is about the time now that you mend your broken heart and start transforming into the new selfish you.
Heed your intuition and remember that the most important thing is me. Make it a rule to take care of your free time and learn how to assertively tell others when you want your space. You are a powerful man/woman and I respect you for standing through what they have put you through.
Remember this:
Sadly, I have learned the hard way that I will always remember and recover, I may forgive, but I will not forget.
Move forward.. Still more to live.. Still more to come.
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With experience comes a hardened heart. But with wisdom, the heart's core remains tender. Should the heart harden to the core, humanity is lost forever.
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I hope it will remain tender.
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It can be tempting to lose faith in humanity when faith in one human has been lost. This however, would be a serious mistake.
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These words are so healing
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Friend, I have had a similar experience, I tried to conquer someone, but it was a half-hearted love, a yes but no and it all ended when I found out that I had been with another person.
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I’m sorry for you. That hurts! I feel your pain.
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Thank you also for sharing your story.
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Thanks for opening up your heart and being vulnerable with us. Dig in and live your best every day, even if you feel you are living a wretched existence. This too shall pass.
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Thanks. I hope so!
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I've been in the same situation, I took to books and they healed the wound perfectly.
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13 sats \ 0 replies \ @fm 11 Jul
If you are around long enough, chances are you face this in your life.. words wont help much.. stay strong
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Pain is created internally. Expectation is a way to cause pain within, instead use intention. The word, trust, is used like, believe, however the real meaning is to accept. May you free your mind and find who you really are. May you find calmness and serenity.
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Beware, be smarter, and protect yourself from those people who join your circle. Avert or unfollow people who consume your friendly/disposition, smog. It is about the time now that you mend your broken heart and start transforming into the new selfish you.
Recognising and addressing red flags while dating, or starting any kind of new relationship is not always easy. That's why we need good friends, or family. But sadly, very often they're also either incompetent or not courageous enough...
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Exactly
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The best revenge is to live well
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Agreed
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Maybe I spoke w/ you in Brooklyn a couple years ago. I remember it fondly. We went to a meetup together.
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Let it go. Just move forward. These things are meant to be making you stronger. Always smile because, there's noone who love you better than yourself.
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I learned this when I was in elementary school, I got betrayed by my friends and then got bullied by all my class mates around 20 of them.
Then I no longer have friends or trust anyone, went completely invisible!
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Forgive, but don't forget!!! And do move on. It is easy to keep trying when investment has been made, but forgive and move on is my advice
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You make a great thing sharing it with us, thank you! Now look forward, think about that always did your best for both of you and isn't your fault! Be proud of yourself and smile at life, someone that will deserve you better in on the way ;D
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Here's the start of a song or a poem that I wrote not too long ago...
This love got me like… Fuck all these feelings I really don’t need em raising these ceilings so high we don’t see em Life has no meaning you gave me a reason first it was great but you changed with the season heart has been broken okay I’m still breathing yeah it’s all pain but at least I still feel it Dreaming of you from the AM to PM But you are not here and you don’t even DM I carry on yeah you know carpe diem
Sorry to hear about your situation. But I do hope that you will love again, and trust again. Any hate and/or resentment you carry hurts nobody else but you. Grieve, self-isolate if necessary, don't forget, but do forgive. You will be forgiving yourself first and foremost :)
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi
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