By virtue of her culture, my wife is an Upholder. Which makes her exasperated with me because I happily flout certain unspoken rules in Japan. I stick out like a sore thumb by being the only person to jaywalk when there are no vehicles around. (All the Japanese wait dutifully at the traffic lights!) I also like to eat while walking - another social taboo in Japan.

I think I can survive around Upholders though. The teaching system is full of protocols and best practices. But I like to do unorthodox things just to remind myself that my spirit cannot be captured haha