The biggest mistake I see fellow living lifers make, whether founders1 or randoms trying to actualize anything, is ignoring context, feedback, and data because it encroaches on a fixed vision or dream that was mostly constructed in their heads, free of context, where the only force acting on it is a self-soothing, self-important, self. The surest sign I know a person is NGMI to the top of self-actualization mountain is they can't take feedback2. They'll never expose their dream to reality because they imagine they can't afford for it to change when it needs to die a million times and evolve into something else, something that can survive outside of their heads.

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  1. Confusingly often even the ones with prior successes somehow still manage to do this just in a much more spectacular and expensive way, not realizing they succeeded the first time because they were surfing a nice stretch of reality as it unfolded and they're an excellent surfer.
  2. Not taking feedback comes in many forms. Sometimes, it's refusing to hear it, insisting it's wrong. Other times, it's agreeing with all of it at face value, accepting it when it's wrong. In either case, there's a lack of feedback diversity, and they never gather enough diverse feedback to know what's true.
110 sats \ 0 replies \ @siggy47 6 Aug
I was listening to WBD with the authors of Resistance Money. They described the process of co writing the book chapter by chapter. They would each ruthlessly pick apart each other's writing, often discarding hours of work until they were all happy with the chapter. They analogized the method as a multi sig.
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I think it’s tough to balance between investing all you got into your idea and remaining emotionally detached from it so that you can incorporate feedback to evolve it. It can be hard to subdue our ego
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