I’ve switched back to iOS from android 3 times now after each attempt going awry. I have a P8P sitting on my desk from the last attempt lol. I hate how you need to use things like profiles to prevent apps from seeing which other apps are installed. iOS won’t let apps do this. Also, choosing a subset of contacts for an app. GrapheneOS makes a big deal out of hardware memory tagging but all system services on iOS, macOS and iPadOS use the same, it’s just Apple never shouted about it. Read through the platform security guide. In my opinion, you get what you pay for with iPhones. Likely a different threat model for me than for y’all of course, but there are annoying things with android itself and just the general lack of quality in many apps available is why I have kept my iPhone every time. All my cloud stuff is self hosted, I’m not using any of their services per se.
As for AI stuff, I respect and trust the way it is implemented. Same way signal built contact verification. “AI” isn’t a problem, it’s mostly just how it’s implemented. I imagine you’ll be able to disable it, I know you definitely can disable ChatGPT which is what I will be doing. Don’t mind the other stuff though, I’ve read their technical documents on how they built it and I approve of the unique design (I’m a systems engineer anyway) they used.