Very well written and sure to trigger some folks. I love the spirit in it.
I can't wait to read more fiction like this. Fiction that isn't about bitcoin but around bitcoin, with all the diversity of morals and pov that exist outside of bitcoin.
thanks koob
the vast majority of the world is too cognizant of what abuse looks like to find this triggering
the ones triggered by it, i can only take their dislike as a compliment, coming from them
there are bubbles that self-isolate themselves cult-style into irrelevancy with codified abuse and bad ideas
self-correcting problem really
the rest of the world is much, much brighter :)
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the vast majority of the world is too cognizant of what abuse looks like to find this triggering
Tbf I think what's triggering, if it is triggering, is the subtle implication that abuse may be what trad bitcoiners/people are advocating, because I would guess they aren't. Still, I think the surprise abuse is what gives the story leverage.
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yeah..... everything in that story is 1) things bitcoiners have actually said to me or to others ad nauseam and 2) gotten angry at me for pointing out how dysfunctional it is. No point arguing it, so let me just show it all put together into one coherent picture of what they say they want. And again, let me not have my character argue, just walk away. It's just how it'll play out under bitcoin and sovereignty.
Side note, most socialists are "not advocating" for theft, but they ARE. A rose by any other name and such. In bitcoin, it's not that they aren't advocating abuse, it's that they don't know they are.
When they advocate for the things I've put in that story, and they DO, they advocate for abuse. Classic, take-a-list-and-check-mark-it, abuse. Isolation, condescension, control, gaslighting, name calling, demeaning someone, infantilization, telling someone what they feel, telling someone what they want, fearing for one's life, taking away what one loves doing, triangulation, preventing education, etc etc.
I just don't understand why it's 'surprise abuse' when it's so glaringly obvious. The surprising thing is why is it believed Bitcoin will bring about this dynamic when it's so clear it will make this dynamic harder to pull off. :) :)
What's not surprising is that some of these men would hate this as much as governments hate losing power over people. What's not surprising is when they lash out to try to stop it. The attempt to codify it into a lifestyle is, I suppose, this backlash, analogous to governments and citizens.
Happily, it's not going to sell well.
Note I point out you can still have a healthy, happy family without this stuff. :) Healthy family is what's most important. And this stuff destroys that.
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Side note, most socialists are "not advocating" for theft, but they ARE.
Where socialism is theft, it's nonconsensual. Where trad is abuse, it's nonconsensual.
The devil is non-consent not the system people might volunteer to organize themselves under.
Codifying and negotiating the sacrifices we make to trade for the sacrifices of someone else, or others, is not necessarily abusive. I imagine the steelman of trad is that it's, vaguely, consensual gender specialization premised on some belief about gender nature/competence/role. It may be a shitty relationship blueprint, but it's just a blueprint, which isn't abusive imo even if there's some presumption of consensual non-consent.
If I had to guess why trad is popular, why men aren't dating or "manning" up, and family formation is down, I'd say it's because opposing tradition doesn't imply a working alternative anymore than anarchy, on its own, implies an alternative to governments.
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I see what you're saying, and I appreciate the thoughtfulness and the steelmanning, but I would argue that poison taken by consent will still poison a person.
"Isolation, condescension, control, gaslighting, name calling, demeaning someone, infantilization, telling someone what they feel, telling someone what they want, fearing for one's life, taking away what one loves doing, triangulation, preventing education"
These things are poisonous to human souls. They simply ARE. Even consented to, although I would argue that the vast majority of time the manipulation is so severe that it can not be called true consent.
The only time I could even conceptualize of these things NOT being poisonous to a human soul would be during some kind of kinky role play that is therapeutic to a person in some way. Personally I don't comprehend it, but I've certainly heard people say it's a very real thing, and on some level it makes sense.
The difference then though is that the second the sub says "I'm no longer ok with this", it INSTANTLY stops, period, for good. It's a game, a role play.
In these relationships, what would happen if the wife said, "I'm not into this anymore, I'd like to stop?" Is that even an option? If not, the possibility of true consent is not really there.
Socrates consented to drink his own poison, did he not? It was still an execution.
And the kids born into this shitty relationship blueprint do not consent.
I think trad is popular because traditional nuclear families are extremely valuable... although I'm not sure that's the natural way of things. I've known too many families from asian villages, and the importance of extended family cannot be overstated. Another topic. But I suspect THAT is what our souls really long for, and it's very traditional.
I do appreciate the point about anarchy.
Trad/redpill/frame.... these aren't traditional relationships anyway. They're 1950s vacuum advertising larping codifying abuse. Something completely different, attractive because it's masquerading as the healthy real thing.
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I would argue that poison taken by consent will still poison a person.
We'd both argue that, but I wouldn't call the poison maker an abuser.

I appreciate the fair dialog. Beyond semantics and personal biases, we probably agree enough. I take trad to mean tradition, not whatever its social media rebrand is, but we probably both agree that good, non-abusive, consensual tradition is good.
I think trad is popular because traditional nuclear families are extremely valuable... although I'm not sure that's the natural way of things.
This is a really important point. There may be other family philosophies that produce stable families, but they aren't well articulated and certainly aren't being practiced much.
To be completely honest, and I only mean to share my experience even if it's ill-conceived, most of what appears erected in the place of traditional families is incoherent and unstable. As a man, I feel as if men are given trad responsibilities and expectations while being expected to give female partners modern responsibilities and expectations (which is to say practically none) else the man is a controlling abuser. Meanwhile, a woman maintaining traditional expectations of men is just her being discerning.
It's no wonder to me why most men aren't lining up for that which is why I think there's something valid going on in the trad movement. The next best alternative for men, if the sacrifices they're expected to make in relationships aren't reciprocated, is to make no sacrifices at all and outsource their needs to the market.
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Oh, and also? The poison maker, no. But the community forcing socrates to drink the pre-made poison?
Anyway, analogies only go so far. Suggesting that abuse isn't abuse just because someone accepts it is......... sadly laughable.
Consent is not actually part of the definition of abuse, no matter how far down you go the list of dictionary or psychology definitions. Abuse is abusive behavior, allowed or not allowed. And......... look, suggesting if it's allowed, it's ok is...... it explains a lot about places I'll never return to. It's very..... making excuses for abusers. Not a good look. I hope it's not actually how you regard these things.
Also.... perhaps a strong argument could be made that consenting to abuse is immoral, for it harms one's soul.
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We will go in circles if we are not using trad the same in a discussion. I think that's why I differentiate between 'trad' and 'traditional'. They are used differently in cultural media, or at the least, they are different things in reality.
Was it GK Chesterton who said tradition is the democracy of the dead? It's a beautiful idea.
I think when a woman is saying loudly "I want a job, I want to create, I was to contribute," that is hardly a female partner taking on practically no responsibility. She is certainly saying "you are I both are not obligated to be house servants," and I think it's unfair to frame that as 'women are taking on no responsibility anymore'. As though men treating a woman well and supporting her as much as she supports him obligates her to drudgery. Honestly, come on. Kind of ridiculous.
I truly think a good marriage is going to allow both partners to take primary responsibility for what they are best at or enjoy most. My mom mowed the lawn, to the judgment of many neighbor wives, because she LOVED doing it. She did the finances, because she was the better at math. And my dad did the things he was better at. Nobody cared what the roles were 'supposed' to be; they did their strengths. And nobody said, "You're a woman, so this IS your strength" and tried to force fit them into boxes. I mean, the neighbors did with lawn mowing. But my parents did not. And we got lots of laughs about it.
To say women aren't making sacrifices at all.... suggests to me folks are hanging out at clubs around club women too much. It also tells me men are being willfully blind; women sacrifice so much. I would never say men do not, but for men to say women do not is...... so blind. With all due respect. Blind as fuck.
Every birth is risking our lives. Choosing a man is risking our lives, because while most men aren't evil, the ones who are hide it very well and the cost is everything... and it's not a rare occurrence. Women sacrifice their ambitions just as much as men, arguably more so throughout history. This is evidenced by most male geniuses had family, while most female geniuses had no children at all.
To suggest that the only fair arrangement for women to be treated well is for them to give up so much... seems silly and ridiculous to me. Personally.
And do not twist this into me saying men don't give up and sacrifice much. Of course they do.
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I don't think you're reading me generously. I'm not saying "women are taking on no responsibility anymore." I'm saying men aren't allowed to have traditional expectations of women without being labelled as controlling abusers while women are allowed to have the same "protect and provide" expectations of men.
I'm not saying women shouldn't be free of traditional expectations if they want to be free of them. I'm saying that if women want to be free of traditional expectations, men aren't going to sign up to let women hold them to traditional expectations. Men are going to choose to be single (which they are choosing en masse ... which I hypothesize is due to this expectation mismatch for lack of a better hypothesis).
And do not twist this into me saying men don't give up and sacrifice much. Of course they do.
I wasn't responding to anything you said there, nor was I implying that it was in reference to anything you said. Accusations like this are enough of a sign that this has turned unproductive.
Thanks again for the productive parts of the convo.