0 sats \ 5 replies \ @ProofOfWorkFitness 17 Aug \ on: The Amount Of Attention Girls Get Is Off The Charts. mostly_harmless
What does your physique look like? How is your personality? Are you able to tell engaging/funny/entertaining stories about your past experiences?
Do you have the finances to go on dates and spend a little money?
Are you kind? Are you witty And can you engage in playful banter?
In my experience, these things matter so much for a single guy.
But you have to be realistic folks, there are more men than there are women and there are way less men who are ticking off all the above boxes.
Focus on yourself and you'll attract what you seek.
Don't be so thirsty or worried about your experience versus a woman's because it's completely different.
Instead of looking for dates on a dating platform why not just go somewhere in person engage in hobbies or activities that you like and meet people there?
Learn how to have a genuine conversation and build rapport with people and see who you have chemistry with.
What does your physique look like?
Working on it, I'm lean by nature, but I'm slowly putting on more muscle, I look alright already, though.
Are you able to tell engaging/funny/entertaining stories about your past experiences?
Not really, don't have that many experiences.
Do you have the finances to go on dates and spend a little money?
I'm a minimalist guy, and although I'm willing to spend money on my girlfriend or wife, I'll stay frugal during dating.
Are you kind? Are you witty And can you engage in playful banter?
Abso-fucking-lutely.
I'll be honest, I'm quite a good catch, I'm simply not that social, don't go out a lot and well, like spending time by myself and with family.
I think that that's the biggest hurdle.
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I love this response because it shows that you are reflective and self-aware, which tbh, most guys seem to lack these days.
there's a difference between staying frugal and being thoughtful/intentional and I will say some of my best dates did not involve spending any money.
as for your biggest hurdle - if you don't go out out a lot and enjoy spending time by yourself - how do you expect people to meet/find/approach you? I'd suggest trying to engage in simple conversation in everyday life. And if you are a catch, I'm sure girls would be THRILLED that a good catch is engaging with them in a non-creepy way. ie - waiting in line at a coffee shop - I'm trying to decide between these two flavors, what is your favorite? At the park - that looks like an interesting book - how do you like it? etc etc. You don't need to introduce yourself formally HI I'm Tom - just organically enter the convo like you're already in it - trust me, this personally works wonders!
Good luck! :)
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Thanks! I usually go on walks specifically to think out loud and reflect on the past days, myself, and my thoughts.
staying frugal and being thoughtful/intentional and I will say some of my best dates did not involve spending any money.
This. You're trying to get to know the person, after all, not his wallet.
as for your biggest hurdle - if you don't go out out a lot and enjoy spending time by yourself - how do you expect people to meet/find/approach you?
Yep, I know, I'm trying to come up with outlets where I wouldn't look totally out of place (clubs and the likes), it's a tough nut to crack, though. 😁
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Hmmm - what kinds of things do you enjoy or have some curiosity around? I think those are the places to go to :)
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Well, I went to the local library a few months back, and there was quite a handsome blonde girl at the desk, and since I have some books to return, I could take a chance and ask her if she'd like to go out with me... 😁
Otherwise I'm quite the hiking / outdoors fan.
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