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The biggest regret of my life is buying my current home almost 10 years ago. If I could do it all over again I would stay the heck away from this hellhole. It has been 10 years of everyday regret. The torture of waking up and seeing my mistake around me every day and then coming home from work everyday to my mistake is hell.
There are so many issues that were hidden from me and I’ve had to sink so much money into this place that I’m trapped here for the foreseeable future - especially with interest rates and the market being what it is right now. Every time I start to save up money for a down payment to get a new place some major disaster happens with this house that wipes everything out: fence collapsed in a storm, trees were rotting and needed to be removed, furnace died in the dead of winter, water softener died and flooded the basement, the hot water heater died, washing machine and dryer died, both garage door openers died, both garage door springs busted, the entire sprinkler system needed to be redone, just to name a few things. The latest was the AC dying this summer. The deck, driveway, and windows all need to be replaced as well but I have no idea how I’m going to come up with the money for any of that anytime soon.
I swear this house must be cursed. There’s a reason the previous owners only lived here 2 years.
Edit: How could I forget about the bats in the attic and the mice getting into the basement constantly? It took almost 9 years to finally get that all sorted out.
Edit 2: My car and my wife’s car are both 15+ years old and having considerable issues but because of all the money we’ve had to sink into the house we’re not sure how we’ll be able to afford even just 1 “new” used car anytime soon.
99 sats \ 1 reply \ @k00b OP 18 Aug
That sounds like torture. Being unhappy at home is the worst. I'm sure you've considered everything and are making the best decision you possibly can.
One thing I like to do when I'm unhappy where finances are relevant is to put a dollar amount on what I'd pay to be rid of the unhappiness. My experience pales in comparison to yours, but when we were unhappy at our last home I priced how much I'd pay to be rid of the unhappiness, and while we ended up paying 50% more in rent to move and are even more house poor, it was worth it. I'm glad it was an option for us because it was driving me absolutely bonkers.
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Thank you. That is actually really good advice. I’m going to have to think about that and see if that can help my situation.
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No wonder you don’t get enough sleep! Hugs
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Yeah, thanks.
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this house is cursed. it's sucking up your generative energy. get out... or bless it, idk. sincerely, your stacker.news shaman.
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The closing date on the sale of my house was October 31 so maybe that should have been a sign.
My wife and I did get a generic house blessing after we were married but maybe we need something stronger…
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