42 sats \ 4 replies \ @AG 24 Sep \ on: Dealing with loneliness meta
I feel loneliness is really a choice, conscious or unconscious, that it could be, from my perspective, is a really hard thing to do. It's maybe worth to differentiate when is actually a conscious decision, as consequence of some spiritual path, or just an unconscious consequence of self-imposed victimhood.
Finding love and love someone it's hard work, and is not magic as they tell us on TV. Building relationships that last is worth consuming for every kJ of energy and second or your limited lifetime.
Just go out, it is plenty of people everywhere, does it matter where you live, there are gonna probably be another man or woman willing to talk with you.
Nothing last forever, loneliness too... so if you feel trap on it, embrace it and enjoy it because at some stage you are going to miss it ;)
Finding love and love someone it's hard work, and is not magic as they tell us on TV.
I guess I'm okay with this, never trusted TV or media anyways. I had the chance to do that hard work for people that turned out to be not worth it. And I must say that I've been the person who someone directed the hard work to, but i wasn't worth it. I understand both sides and I must say that that's a consuming game to play, but if you get the right chemistry the jackpot is extraordinary. A game worth playing.
I appreciate your practical answer.
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And I must say that I've been the person who someone directed the hard work to, but i wasn't worth it.
I read some regret between the lines here... it's always worth! Keep in mind it is all a learning process, feelings and emotions have to be listened to, not suffer from. We have much to learn on the V4V model to be applied to every aspect of life, including these. We should always give, without expecting anything in return, if not the teaching provided.
A really important lesson I learned is that when you give some change to a homeless in need, you don't do it for the homeless, you do it for yourself.
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Yep, when I experienced heavy loneliness I always gravitated towards bitterness, which is usually associated with regret feelings. I'm running away from it every day of my life ever since...that's one of the worst feelings a human being can ever experience, in my opinion.
I'm gradually understanding that relationships are a possibly th
e only game where you can improve the understanding of yourself no matter what the outcome is. I'm trying to work on it as of now, that's painful and I have to remind it to myself basically every 12 hours. But I know that's a better approach than the regret approach.
I've no expectations from any relationship, from anything for what matters. I feel that this approach is what drives me mental when I experience loneliness...no expectations make me feel like I've no route to follow. I prefer to expect stuff, even if it can lead to delusion.