Love and loneliness. Two sides of the same coin. In my experience, loneliness is the result of externalizing love —seeing at something outside of yourself. However frustrating, I believe it is true that we must first love ourselves. When we first love ourself, something wonderful happens. We start taking better care of ourselves, and a chain reaction of positive effects begin to happen. This in turn inspires others to “love” us simply for being happy with ourselves. It’s very similar to the notion of the law of attraction. Difficult as it may be, try to cultivate love from within. And if that is challenging for you, I would encourage you to look into the awe and wonder of things bigger than ourselves. Religion, spirituality, meditation…etc. I’m not trying to shill you one viewpoint or another, simply to realize that life is precious and we are incredible living beings with the most agency and potential of any other known living entity. I believe loneliness, and boredom for that matter, come as a consequence of forgetting how incredibly amazing, capable and unique we all are. Easy to do in our modern world full of materialism and abstraction. So love yourself, OP.
Plus, if you’re a on SN you’re clearly a smart person who understands Bitcoin. While I don’t even know you, I know you already have a lot going for you!
Go outside, connect with nature “touch grass” and love yourself. Good things will happen 💛
Love it. Seeing a smiling little girl with her momma today gave me exactly that feeling of happiness. The snowball effect that gratitude and love have is something I alywas underestimated, me being that kind of person that is never happy with what he has. I'm trying hard to change that, to not miss important shots of life.
Out of curiosity, do you have specific activities, rituals, books, ideas, films, quotes - whatever that is - that you use to remind yourself this things? It may be as stupid question, excuse me if so.
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Having an “attitude of gratitude” is the best and most succinct quote or mantra I can think to share. Easy to say and more difficult to do.
Making a habit of reflecting on things you’re grateful for is very cathartic and self-healing. This could be done journaling, meditating or praying.
It primes your mind for a growth mindset because you’ll want to add more things to that list, haha.
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