Be careful with who you are opening private channels. Open with good LSPs that are not blocking routes to those channels. Usually 90% public routing nodes just want to assmilk others and "earn passive income". Yes, instead of fucking the banksters we are fucking each others.
Yes, these private channels are a pain in the ass for them and many routing nodes don't even know how to deal with private channels and they treat them as public dead channels (because they do not see them always online).
So I suggest to open channels with well known LSPs that know how to treat private channels. Also that will keep open and enabled (not disabled) your channel as long as you keep a certain amount of balance on your side.
Do not keep a channel almost empty on your side! That means a cost for your peer and eventually they will close that channel. If you empty it more often, try to put back the balance on your side. Keep it busy. Remember: the LSP wants you to USE that channel not keeping it empty, dead.
It is a long way to understand this economics of channels, private and public.
Thanks. I've tried to keep in mind some of this advice from previous posts and comments you've made.
I would be using these channels more if the transactions weren't failing.
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I use many private nodes, and my payments never fail. But I choose very carefully my peers and sometimes I avoid direct routes with my final destinations.
My only p2p channel I have with a bar where I experiment paying my beers with keysend, through that private channel with bar owner's node. All the rest are using 2-3-4 hops.
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