299 sats \ 3 replies \ @k00b 8 Nov \ on: Don't fall into the networth = self worth trap FiresidePhilosophy
I read a great X thread a few days ago about how a man's father intentionally avoided climbing the ladder so he could spend more time with his children. The father got to coach his children's sports teams and never missed a game or a recital.
The father came to this realization after talking to a colleague that was retiring and expressed his regrets. The man recalled that while him and his siblings never had the latest stuff or a big house, they had a present dad.
A lot of people equate "provider" = bring money, but it's only one facet of it.
The father from your thread sounds like he was a good provider of more than just money.
Arguably more important than solely money, and definitely more impactful for the kids and family who will remember his presence, his time as coach or support.
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yeah, my kid's friend's dad has made a lot of money in his time and he wasn't even at his own kids birthday party last time and i thought, that is some bullshit right there. how girls end up with daddy issues
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this reminds me of Rick Morranis (to the younger stackers, he was a big comedy actor in the 80s, Honey i shrunk the kids etc) who walked away from Hollywood to raise his kids after his wife died.
i totally resonate with this.
when you listen to people's deathbed regrets, they never say ' i regret not working more in the office with a bunch of people who didn't give a shit about me'
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