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11 sats \ 4 replies \ @7e6e393a56 5 Dec \ on: Tough love or compassionate teacher? What actually works? alter_native
My experiences are mostly tough love, so I learned from a young age to do what needs to be done, and not take it personally. I grew up in a neighborhood where most of my friends were older than me, and that prepared me a lot for the future to come. I've had experience with some types of teachers, but the worst thing for me is not the tough love, but the indifferent one.
That's true. Indifference is the worst. My father was really tough. And my tennis couch. I definitely learned a lot. But a big part of what I learned was how I didn't want to be with my own kids. Sometimes there is probably a place for tough love.
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This is true wisdom: learn from other people's mistakes and don't make them yourself.
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I have learned to be grateful for it all. My father was intense. But now he has been gone a long time, he took his own life. And I have done a lot of work to understand my life path better. I used to feel like a victim to things he did. Now I realize that he helped me become a strong resilient man. And I can see how hurt he was and how hard he had it. I have only gratitude for him. I wouldn't change a thing. So grateful.
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A very intense experience. In a whirlwind of emotions like the one you went through, you made yourself a better person to move forward. I'm happy for you!!!
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