Ah! Relationship management between the wife and the mum is a fragile tightrope to manage. I have no easy answers.

In Chinese, we have a saying 相见好同住难. (Xiang Jian Hao tong zhu nan)

Meaning: "It's easy to get along when meeting, but hard to live together."

So even though I’m Asian, we recognise the difficulty of living together with our extended family members. Hope you feel less alone in this struggle

cryotosensei

My son’s wife drove my wife nuts when she was here. Things didn’t go very well.

Rothbardian_fanatic

alter_native

How do people live with their parents?

Undisciplined

Ha! I started this post this morning and abandoned it, because it was turning into a thorough description of why the things they do are so rightfully irritating.

You're probably right that the key is the wife's mood. My mom drives my wife nuts.