Ah! Relationship management between the wife and the mum is a fragile tightrope to manage. I have no easy answers.

In Chinese, we have a saying 相见好同住难. (Xiang Jian Hao tong zhu nan)

Meaning: "It's easy to get along when meeting, but hard to live together."

So even though I’m Asian, we recognise the difficulty of living together with our extended family members. Hope you feel less alone in this struggle