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107 sats \ 3 replies \ @stack_harder 29 Dec 2024 \ on: AskSN Parents: How is parenting hard for you? alter_native
I have found it easier as they grow up in some ways, but lots of things are hard, and the challenge changes.
When my youngest was a baby, she was a fucking nightmare sleeper, just terrible. multiple night wake-ups, would spend an hour rocking her to sleep, place her down like goddam India Jones stealing a treasure, sit down with a cup of tea, and within ten minutes, she'd be stirring again.
It was a test of my sanity and marriage and we very nearly got divorced, throw in the stress of moving countries and other bits too. That was a period of deep depression, rage, and frustration. With time, things improved, it wasn't quick and it required me learning a shitton of new coping strategies and self-study.
In contrast, my second kid was and is a champion sleeper and epic nap taker.
The other hard thing about being a parent, for me, is this feeling of 'I can't die', once my first was born, I became uncomfortable flying (all my 20s I traveled and flew at least 10 times a year, never bothered me at all).
Now I have this thing where it's like a low-grade fear of not being here to raise the kids, my wife would remarry some fiat maxi ass milker and my years of careful education would be undone lol
Finally, there is a more nebulous anxiety about the future world the kids will inherit, will they want to be OF models because most other economic models aren't worth it? What kind of nonsense will the various EU govs decide on as our monetary system breaks etc
So yes, these days, mostly I find the hard part is my brain thinking about things, well, that and getting them to bed on time to wake up a 6am. That is something we all hate!
My daughter inexplicably screams in the middle of the night. Her dreams must be really vivid. But nothing as compared to your youngest child. You made me want to count my blessings haha
I have a low-key fear of dying before my time too. In fact my stretch goals for next year include getting my will done so that my executor can do the needful should anything untoward happen to me
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it was rough man, she still isn't a massive sleeper, but is normal in terms of sleep now. but yeah, i would it was about 2-3 years of terrible sleep, she also had this habit of drinking water in the night and would pee the bed, like 3 times a night, wife would be floating around with the phone light on changing sheets.
Meanwhile, the second daughter would nap sometimes for 3 hours, paradise!
btw, i should add to the death fear the 'i must live long enough to teach her how to use the hardware wallet and access the btc'. I've heard of casa doing inheritance planning, but not sure how much i trust it
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I will be following your posts closely so that I benefit when you get your hands wet in regard to unpacking the mysteries of inheritance planning haha
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