Great conversation starter. I heard this idea somewhere (maybe Jordan Peterson? maybe he got it from somewhere else? maybe I'm just thinking of The Giver by Lois Lowry?) , that if humans were actually able to achieve some form of [structured] utopia, it would feel like death and the first thing we'd do is destroy it.

I think there has to be balance between structure and, well, chaos and unpredictability. And actually, I think that dichotomy is that the center of a lot of interesting issues.

Conservatism and liberalism, for example, represent the political beliefs of people who prefer the safety of structure vs joy of change and unpredictability. It's deep shame that polarization is pitting us all against each other - the reality is, each needs the other!

I think highly disciplined individuals without kids should make sure to build in some unpredictability if their lives truly follow a strict schedule every hour of every day... But as far as the day to day life of a parent of 3 kids goes... Listen, even if you have a super strict structure, the kids will inherently counterbalance that. If you still feel like you're languishing in your structure, I think that's a symptom of something deeper.

So, all that to say, structure or no structure, you need to seek a deeper meaning either way. My personal belief is that our minds are very finite, and truth lies beyond our ability to comprehend it. That necessitates faith.

I believe that we can discover and establish truth in our minds, and logic and reasoning can be used to bridge the space between truths, and find pathways to discover more truth. BUT: our ability to use logic and reason is limited, and therefore, to truly pursue the truth and meaning of life, we have to use faith to bridge some of those gaps.

Faith is a way to experience and embrace unpredictability and change and uncertainty, without letting go of truth. Faith is a way to reach meaning that structure and logic cannot reach.