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167 sats \ 5 replies \ @Aardvark OP 28 Jan \ parent \ on: If you could change one thing about your past what would it be? AskSN
I've actually put a lot of thought into this comment. When I was much younger, I had a deep need to "fit in" which also manifested itself in constant lies. My parents moved us around a lot, so every new school was a chance to be a new me, and "this time people will like me for sure."
Thankfully it's a habit I grew out of but I never really considered it from the perspective of time lost. I think the most damaging lies, however, is the ones I told myself to justify not doing the things that I wanted to do.
"I don't have time" is probably most damaging lie I told myself, and I did it constantly. Looking back, there was a lot of lost time due to lies for sure.
i moved around a bit too. I wonder if that's what motivates the kind lies we both told. It's difficult, and formative, to have to make new friends while you're still trying to figure out who you are.
I told myself to justify not doing the things that I wanted to do
I find the worst ones to be these self-psyop ones. One of my big ones was "I don't need to move to a big city to succeed as a founder. I just need to code harder."
"I don't have time" is probably most damaging lie I told myself, and I did it constantly.
One of my personal fables I like to tell is that I wanted to snowboard since I was 12, which is the first time I went, but I told myself I was too old to begin learning.
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"Too old" and "Too late" are definitely some of the worst ones. I used to be under the impression, that if I did anything, I needed to be the best at it.
After I hit my mid to late 20's I missed out on a lot of things because I knew for a fact that I was too old to ever be truly great at quite a lot of things.
Luckily my "mid-life crisis" was centered on fixing myself instead of buying a sports car.
How did the snowboarding work out? Do you still do it?
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