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50 sats \ 3 replies \ @Undisciplined 8h \ on: You Can Just Feel Differently; How I Stopped Hating My Husband (Kate Hanley) HealthAndFitness
Not keeping score is a little bit unnatural, but it's one of the best hacks for having good relationships. We are bad at score keep, likely self destructively bad at it. If you like being with the person, or people, you're with, what is being accomplished by making these mental tallies?
I have an upcoming personal challenge, Active April, where I'm going to try not to be a lazy bones and do whatever things around the house that I notice could be done. It's gonna get real Jordan B. Peterson-y up in here.
I've been married for several decades. I'm the one who earns all the money and pays for everything. I've done well and have managed to pay off the house + cars + put money in the kids college accounts.
Sometimes this makes me feel "unappreciated"...as I feel the entirety of this family enterprise rides on my shoulders...
I quickly realize all the innumerable things my wife does. Without her, honestly non of the other shit matters....I mean that in the sense of practical issues: keeping up with kids and their school requirements, cleaning, keeping up with extended family commitments, the emotional state of the kids and helping them work thru things, and generally creating a household that is even suitable for kids.
I'm pretty good at making money and could live well with a wine fridge and BBQ pit outside to make steaks on. However, I've realized beyond that I'm not really capable of creating a "family environment" by myself. So its certainly a division of labor situation....
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You’re playing to each of your strengths! That’s a good thing
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We loooove that.
Welcome to the party
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