I've been married for several decades. I'm the one who earns all the money and pays for everything. I've done well and have managed to pay off the house + cars + put money in the kids college accounts.

Sometimes this makes me feel "unappreciated"...as I feel the entirety of this family enterprise rides on my shoulders...

I quickly realize all the innumerable things my wife does. Without her, honestly non of the other shit matters....I mean that in the sense of practical issues: keeping up with kids and their school requirements, cleaning, keeping up with extended family commitments, the emotional state of the kids and helping them work thru things, and generally creating a household that is even suitable for kids.

I'm pretty good at making money and could live well with a wine fridge and BBQ pit outside to make steaks on. However, I've realized beyond that I'm not really capable of creating a "family environment" by myself. So its certainly a division of labor situation....