Usually my wife and I do a pretty good job of getting past petty things, but April was a hell of a month. Right now more often than not, our discussions end with one of us being irritated.

Woman are moody and more emotional than men. Its your job as her husband to not get caught up in her energy( triggered as you say). Husbands should be emotionally stable and have a calming effect when his wife gets irritated. Its not easy but with practice you can do it and you will be rewarded with a stronger marriage as you get better at it.

Often times woman like to vent. They don't want advice and they don't want you to try and fix things. Only you being there and listening is enough. The worst thing you can do is fall into her negative energy. Sit there quietly and listen. Every time you feel the urge to speak, let her continue. Or ask a leading question or say tell me more. Do this several times and let her get everything out then tell her its all gonna be ok.

It happens. Couples fight. Ones with kids may fight even more about priorities, responsibilities, etc.

I know it sounds cliche, but communication is key. Being transparent with one another while also being careful to stick to topics and not making it personal.

I feel like it's always a WIP.

The secret to a harmonious marriage (in my opinion) is a willingness to compromise on the part of BOTH parties. They say, in Hungary, that marriage is like a big barrel full of shit with a few inches of honey on top. At the beginning of a marriage, you have to mix the "contents" of the barrel so that you have a mix of everything at the beginning and at the end.

Oh man I want to fight but I can't. We only get 'us time' for love making. Now with our first child we don't really have anyhing sort of fighting but yeah I sometimes irritate her for that she's smart enough to avoid or complain to my mom. It's really difficult when you live in a combined family.

All couple fights. There is not a such thing as the perfect person...we all have defects and we do not behave the same way all the time.

I've been married for the last 20 years, no complains at all, but of course, every now and then, there are periods of time we have less patience with each other or we're more susceptible to silly stuff.

We, normally talk about what makes us feel sad or angry but time also is a good doctor...

Fights go 2 way, sometimes wrong, sometimes right. It all depends.

Fighting is alright, as long as there is compromise or resolution afterwards. All relationships take work.

My philosophy is you have to learn to pick your battles and try not to fight over money. Easier said than done dependant on your financial situation.

Sounds like it sucks most of the time, what a waste.

Here we say "A husband and wife's fight is like a fire in dry straw."

:)