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hahaha, yeah I've reflected on this before... it seems utterly asymmetrical and, thus, a little pointless: one party's efforts are costlier than the other party's perceived benefit.
I remember living in a shared house many years ago and felt like I was always emptying the dishwasher. I was thinking that, too, while I observed my housemates empty it.
This is why I think score keeping is such a toxic practice. We notice and care about all of the things we do more than the things the other person does. The result is everyone being bitter and resentful.
I mean, that was quite a message about my normal level of helpfulness.
She does like helping with lots of stuff, but she inherited my wife's lack of situational awareness, so she seldom notices when I'm doing a chore.
Not noticeably. She can get pretty absorbed in her own stuff and I don't think she really noticed that there were fewer undone chores than normal.
The first couple of days she did ask if I was trying to send some sort of message about the state of the house.