My friend @benwehrman made a formal invitation to me and he is the reason why I'm here today! (he is the reason why I'm on NOSTR too and why I eat a bunch of meat too) I'm glad to be here today sharing with y'all!!

I love this question Ben!! If I became President of Love, I wouldn’t try to engineer romance — I’d fix incentives.

I’d invest in honest relationship education early, slow dating by default, and systems that reward clarity over volume. Fewer options, clearer intentions, more accountability.

I’d also focus on reducing chronic stress and instability, because people bond better when they’re not in survival mode — and I’d normalize being single so relationships are chosen, not rushed.

One key thing: I would actively discourage red-pill ideology — for both men and women.

That content thrives on manipulation, resentment, and zero-sum thinking. Love doesn’t work that way. Healthy relationships aren’t 50/50 scorekeeping — they’re two people consistently trying to give their best.

What I see instead is confusion being incentivized:
• Men being taught to use women rather than approach relationships with long-term responsibility.
• Unrealistic and contradictory expectations around purity, sex, and commitment.
• Young women absorbing distorted standards about money, status, and worth before they’re emotionally or financially grounded themselves.

None of this creates stable couples. It creates distrust, delay, and isolation.

Healthy love emerges when truth, generosity, maturity, and long-term thinking are incentivized — not fear, leverage, or gender wars.

I started doing it for free, it was a hobby!

During the lockdowns the only thing that I personally cared about was matching unvaccinated people and saving the world. Then my non-clients told me I was so talented that I could start charging and making a business out of it! I found out that what I was doing was "matchmaking" and a real business model. So I improved it, added things NO one else in the market currently does, (like the lovers manual or my arrow methodology process) and created my international business located in America but now aimed to entrepreneurs and high performing men (vaccinated people deserve love too) I still care about vaccines but I understand it is not a priority for everybody so i do the matches based on the priorities my clients have (location, religion, values, looks etc)

Dresses for women.
Suits for men.

Nothing sexier than a man who knows how to dress. Nothing hotter than a man that smells good, takes care of himself. Same for women. Although women tend to care more about hygiene than men.

So I want hygiene back.

And suits and dresses. Classic colors. Navy blue. Phthalo green. Nude.

If people would knew their colorimetry and how to dress based on their color palette they would look 10 times better and they would be way more confident. (plus eating a bunch of steak and sometimes lifting weights) that is the recipe to look good and that is the fashion I want to see make a return.
Just healthy, classy, educated people that know how to dress in dresses and suits.
Those have to come with manners obviously.
Nice clothes do not buy class or education.

What's the most surprising thing you've learned about men doing matchmaking?

The most surprising thing I’ve learned is how many men who look confident and successful on the outside are actually deeply unsure about whether they’re “doing dating right.”
A lot of them aren’t afraid of commitment — they’re afraid of choosing wrong, wasting time, or being misunderstood. Many have very little honest feedback about how they come across, so matchmaking becomes less about “finding a woman” and more about clarity and calibration for them and letting them realize what they can get based on what they can offer too. It is about being realistic although most men don't have big requirements, deep down they just don't want to end up hurt so they really care about values.

What's the most surprising thing you've learned about women doing matchmaking?
The most surprising thing is how often women undersell what they want. Many have learned to be “easygoing” or “low-maintenance” to stay likable, even when they’re actually looking for something serious and stable.
When you create a space where they don’t feel rushed or judged, their preferences become much clearer — and they’re far more intentional than people assume! although I personally do not take women as clients, only men

Sourcing women isn’t hard at all @k00b Specially with my arrow methodology that I explain through calls to each client!

I’ve actually had women approach me, including CEOs and women from ultra-wealthy families, offering to pay whatever I wanted to find them a partner. I declined, because I’ve chosen not to work with female clients directly. That’s a structural decision, not a lack of demand.

The real challenge isn’t finding women, it’s finding quality women.
Women that men genuinely want to date seriously, build a life with, and potentially start a family with. That requires far more than availability or status.

What’s worked best is trust-based sourcing. I’ve built a network of women who previously went through my matchmaking process and are now in happy, stable relationships. I compensate them to refer women with the character, values, and lifestyle alignment my current clients are looking for.

In other words, it’s less like a nightclub and more like a reputation-driven network. Quality compounds when incentives are aligned.

Not fully 100% but a Matchmaker can predict part of it.

You can sense potential chemistry before meeting: conversational flow, curiosity, humor, emotional safety, and whether attraction is likely based on preferences and values. That’s real data, not fantasy.

But physical chemistry has a biological component (scent, presence, micro-signals) that only shows up in person. That is why I encourage every single client I have ever had to go and meet their match in person asap!
The mistake people make is assuming it’s all or nothing.

And lack of early sparks online doesn’t always mean there won’t be chemistry in person either. And fantasizing too much about someone without getting on videocalls and truly get to know each other through texts before meeting is not healthy either because you are putting them on a pedestal they should not be in.

That’s why intentional dating works best when you screen well and meet sooner!!

Sure! Just tell him to fill out my form in my database jointofindlove.com and we'll get on a call so we can talk about his situation and I can figure out a solution so he can get his dream girl to spend next Christmas together!

Zero.

I don’t work with people who want affairs, secrecy, or double lives. This is a serious business for marriage-minded individuals, not casual or deceptive arrangements.

I screen clients carefully and rely on both structure and judgment when deciding who I work with. If someone’s intentions aren’t aligned with honesty and long-term commitment, I don’t take them on.

I’m very pro-prenup — but not from a fear-based or gender-war perspective.

A prenup is simply adults setting the rules for their own marriage instead of outsourcing those rules to the government. If you don’t define them yourselves, the state will — and that outcome depends on who’s in power and where you live at the time things end.

I see prenups as mutual protection, not something “for men only.” They protect assets, expectations, future income, and — just as importantly — they force honest conversations before marriage. No surprises. No assumptions.

From a matchmaking perspective, prenups are actually a green flag when they’re done transparently and fairly. They signal foresight, it also signals true love for their partner in its most pure form (wanting the best for their partner irregardless of them) responsibility, and clarity — not distrust.

ALSO, rich men do NOT get married without a prenup hahaha when did you see that? you have to be kind of dumb to take the most important financial decision of your life (who you are marrying) in an unorganized way.

The key difference from red-pill framing is this:
A prenup shouldn’t be about defending yourself from your spouse. It should be about designing a marriage with eyes open, so neither person is gambling their future on politics, courts, or ambiguity.

Handled correctly, prenups reduce resentment — they don’t create it.

Craziest conspiracy I think is true:
That “50/50 relationships” were sold as fairness, but quietly removed generosity, polarity, and effort and somehow everyone ended up less happy.

Craziest conspiracy I think is not true:
That men and women are natural enemies who need strategies, leverage, or manipulation to coexist. Deep down, most people just want to love and be loved without keeping score. We don’t need to manipulate situations or intentionally hurt each other to “win.”

Now talking about real conspiracies... I believe most of them but the only one hard to believe still is the flat earth situation, but I won't argue about it because I don't have a trip to the moon/space soon enough to prove it hahaha

What I see often is a contradiction.

Many crypto men say they want to secure a wife and build a family, but they spend most of their time in environments with very few women. Conferences, online spaces, trading rooms, male-heavy social circles. There simply aren’t enough real opportunities there to meet relationship-minded women.

At the same time, they’re highly career-focused and time-constrained. Dating feels inefficient, so they either postpone it indefinitely or engage casually with women they already know won’t lead anywhere.

That’s where the analogy fits:

Shitcoins are the women they spend time with but don’t intend to commit to.

Bitcoin is the woman they see as long-term, rare, and worth protecting and building with.

The issue isn’t lack of desire for commitment, it’s misaligned environments and incentives. You don’t find long-term value by hanging out only where short-term speculation happens.

Men who eventually succeed relationally are the ones who change their inputs: where they go, who they spend time with, and how intentionally they date not just how hard they work.

I work with a very limited number of clients at a time — intentionally.

Matchmaking isn’t scalable in the usual sense. Every person has different values, attachment patterns, cultural backgrounds, and expectations. If you overload the system, quality collapses.

I can be 3 weeks with one client and 3 months with another. It depends on what each person looks for.

I protect my bandwidth by:

keeping my client list small,

using structured intake and clear filters early,

having a rewarded referral program for other women to encourage them to work from home ($500 USD per lead) and a structured network

The most important thing is only taking on people where I genuinely believe there’s a realistic path forward.

That structure creates room for the human part of the work: listening, pattern recognition, and honest feedback. The differences between clients aren’t a problem. My job is to understand those differences without rushing them.

In short, I don’t try to maximize volume. In fact I don't even care about it. I design the work so depth is possible.

Values over looks. Values over everything.

Looks can open the door, but values determine whether the relationship lasts, how conflict is handled, how loyalty works, how money and family are treated, and how life is built together.

Everything else is secondary.

Bitcoin is deeply personal to me.

I was born and raised in Argentina, where currency instability isn’t a theory — it’s daily life. Even though I travel a lot, Argentina has always been my base. When I was around 16–17, the government restricted access to U.S. dollars to about $200 per month. For many Argentinians, USD was how families preserved savings. Suddenly, that door was closed.

I started working at 15, always independently, always entrepreneurial. When I learned about Bitcoin, I began converting whatever pesos I could into it; not to get rich, but to preserve value. It was my way, as a teenager, of protecting the fruits of my work. Marketing agencies, clothing brands, community manager, ecommerce... whatever thing I tried to do at the time I was able to thankfully protect with BTC. And my fav part is that it was not attached to the goverment like USD! hahaha

What mattered most wasn’t price. It was trust.

Bitcoin felt understandable, accessible, and — crucially — not sketchy. It didn’t rely on promises, founders, or marketing narratives. It simply worked. It gave me something stable in a system where stability was rare.

That’s why I see Bitcoin as fundamentally different from “crypto.”
Crypto often revolves around speculation, incentives, and constant novelty. Bitcoin is boring by comparison and that’s the point. It’s about rules, limits, and credibility over time.

Bitcoin didn’t change my life overnight. It gave me something quieter but more important: confidence that my effort wouldn’t be arbitrarily erased. That foundation made everything else possible.

Delivering on time. Fore sure.
Sometimes it can be a bit frustrating because I would adore to deliver the results in a week or two. Everybody would be happy. But it is a process that takes time, can take one, two, three months, lots of effort from my part and constant updates to my clients. Honestly I end up becoming so close to them during the process that in the other hand we end up becoming deep friends after it! because being totally transparent, who knows them better than me who fixed one of the MOST important subjects in their life? I find them their dream girls, I find them LOVE! One of my clients who became a deep friend of mine calls me his fairy Godmother haha but yes, timing is hard for ME personally because I care more about delivering quality and RESULTS than rushing to get money like most companies could do.