There's some basic support for #pickhardtpayments in lnd-manageJ (https://github.com/C-Otto/lnd-manageJ). This is work in progress and, currently, you can't actually send payments. Instead, you can compute routes, i.e. split your large payment into different pieces that together form an MPP.
Introduction to the current state: https://twitter.com/c_otto83/status/1510051269255344128
I'm curious about your questions and I'd be happy to answer them!