I don't understand the issue. Tor your node, open channels with people willing to sell you inbound liquidity. Use an LSP or Magma. Buy from robosats. I don't understand the point of torching your lightning node wallet. Pseudonymous has a much greater anonymity set. You want all the channels you can handle, and them to not have much significance. privacy coins are exactly the same, if few people are transacting, few people to check with. How do you think the binance people got caught, they just got the info from an XMR exchange, only a few people to check on.